Is there a place for me?

[Nyvara]

OK, I'm no expert about autism not going to claim to be. How ever with respect maybe you should speak to a Doctor about your discomfort in dealing with "normal" people. She/He could prescribe something that could help stabilize you enough to get along with folks. If you already are then ask about a different kind.

I don't like to advocate medication but in some cases I have discovered it to be helpful if not full on necessary.

No matter where you go what you do things won't change unless the underlying causes of your issues change. Those issues aren't the people around you and those people will exist in every facet of your life in game and out.

[Phenidate]

A number of people keep asking for details, or making wild assumptions about fairly cut and dry details.
Or just completely ignoring the topic of the thread to play armchair life coach, giving advice about how to 'be better'. I wouldn't take such advice on a video game forum - don't act surprised Sasarayu doesn't either.

Instead of doing that - go here: https://www.autismspeaks.org/what-autism
This is where I went after I was diagnosed - plenty of information whether it's your child, you as an adult - or especially if you're willing to take the time to understand what autism is.
There's plenty of other sites like it.
There's also wikipedia.
There's also google.
There is zero reason to be ignorant.

Stop asking for proof - unless you're willing to go through what that process involves.
What's the process?
You show me your medical records, I'll show you mine. I'm not shy about sharing deeply personal information you have to sign a waiver to allow someone else to access - but I'll want the same in return.

Don't tell me you were expecting some membership card or award certificate to prove it. Maybe if we're lucky I might have kept one of my medals from my time in the special olympics.

Lord help me if someone drops a 'it's all in your head' - because I assume you know where the brain is as well as I do. Disabilities stem from defects, deformities or injuries to the body. That includes the brain.
Technically we could do a CAT scan - but DSM and ICD exist and are the standard - plus I flat out hate doing CAT scans.

OK, I'm no expert about autism not going to claim to be. How ever with respect maybe you should speak to a Doctor about your discomfort in dealing with "normal" people. She/He could prescribe something that could help stabilize you enough to get along with folks. If you already are then ask about a different kind.

I don't like to advocate medication but in some cases I have discovered it to be helpful if not full on necessary.

No matter where you go what you do things won't change unless the underlying causes of your issues change. Those issues aren't the people around you and those people will exist in every facet of your life in game and out.

Not at all wrong - I don't advocate medication either - but medication isn't the only answer medicine has, and rarely the first one. Advocate for behavioral training, counseling, mentoring.
Those are the first options for autism and basically any other developmental disability.

I eventually ended up on meds - plus there's only so much you can do about things like bipolar disorder. Thankfully - lithium just works.

[Sasarayu]

I would never turn to a psychiatrist ever. Especially not to "fit in with others".

When I was a child my parents were threatened by authorities who compelled them to take me to psychiatrists and force a bunch of medication and crap on me or they might lose custody. They had to do all kinds of humiliating stuff like apologizing for me in public and the medications ranged from schizophrenia drugs to strong antidepressant and nowadays banned medications that could cause sudden heart failures in some. All along, "society" thought my parents did it because they were ashamed of me since they didn't know school and social authorities used legal paragraphs to force them into accepting this.

To even suggest I should seek psychiatric "care" to "help change my behaviour" is one of the greatest insults imaginable. I hope to see the day when psychiatry is abolished and the people behind it and working in it severely punished by a legal system.

I feel like groups that are going for first week/world first clears don't care that much about feelings between each other. Maybe you're looking for a group in the wrong sector (midcore vs hardcore) if you're indeed as talented as you make yourself out to be and are having trouble finding a group with your same values. Or maybe wow is just the game for you.

I'm much more midcore than hardcore but the problem with midcore groups in FFXIV is that they have even higher standards for who they cherrypick than others since they tend to want to be more elite than they are. Getting into them was imo harder than finding a hardcore group. It's where you will find the pseudo elitists but their level of skill/performance is easily matched by me. I would be contributing to a midcore group but they refuse to see it. That's why I ended up through nepotism in a much more hardcore group as the wrong role even. Since I couldn't find a midcore group.

[Averax]

So like, do you also shop at hot topic to get away from normal people?

OP needs a lot more help than people on a video game internet forum can give them.

[Nora_of_Mira]

Instead of having built a relationship to that SMN who usually outperformed their own DPS quite noticeably, they were forced to recruit people who weren't up to standards. They could have had a really good SMN but they had to find makeshift solutions instead since they wasted that opportunity by trashtalking and bullying me in HW.

That's the level of arrogance I frequently face in FFXIV. In WoW I was welcomed with open arms by players of the same level, not lectured on my "cancerous personality".

Yeah that sounds like normal behavior from the community. What you call "arrogance" my static calls "peace of mind". Throughout Omega, they kept having to replace their DRG spot due to bad personalities until they found me. They admitted my DPS wasnt as high as their previous DRG but they liked me better as a team player as I came in without an ego and participated in conversation about improving performance and synchronizing strats (normal raid stuff). almost all of my raiding Linkshell agrees they would take a blue DRG over a loud, egocentric, orange DRG.

I read your posts, so I know you dont want acceptance, but this is group oriented content. I think it is implied that participating in group oriented content means meeting people halfway and knowing how to compromise. ....Or you can roll against the odds and find 7 other lone wolves like yourself, good luck.

[Nedkel]

The problem is not his/her performance as a player, people just don't like to be around him/her.

Its them thinking he is defective as a player because of it, i am not saying it.
He should not share his story with anyone online unless he knows a person really close so he could share it with them, world is not fair and will never be, especially in places where people judge everyone over all the time.
Online world requires different approaches.

I would never turn to a psychiatrist ever. Especially not to "fit in with others".

When I was a child my parents were threatened by authorities who compelled them to take me to psychiatrists and force a bunch of medication and crap on me or they might lose custody. They had to do all kinds of humiliating stuff like apologizing for me in public and the medications ranged from schizophrenia drugs to strong antidepressant and nowadays banned medications that could cause sudden heart failures in some. All along, "society" thought my parents did it because they were ashamed of me since they didn't know school and social authorities used legal paragraphs to force them into accepting this.

To even suggest I should seek psychiatric "care" to "help change my behaviour" is one of the greatest insults imaginable. I hope to see the day when psychiatry is abolished and the people behind it and working in it severely punished by a legal system.

Forget about it and seek for a medical care.
Not all psychiatrists are bad, most of them are there to help you. The way they may treat you is a part of medical procedures on someone with mental health issues. I had in my family few cases of schizophrenia and they were hating psychiatrist because of the similar reasons thinking they are fine and all the world around them want to control them and change them, but end up being tied up and closed for few months, and became a normal functioning persons after few years of medical treatment, without anxiety without nothing.
All medications are coming with side effects, especially those for mental health, but they are still developing them and they are helping people to the point where someone not being able to function could find a job while taking them.
Dont be so biased and try it again, psychiatric medical care is developing really fast and is helping a ton of people, you may only get worse if you refuse to treat yourself.

[Krotoan]

... is this thread still full of people trying to "fix" OP? They're not asking for that. They're asking for people to play with who won't try to change them and where to find those people.

[SenorPatty]

Reminds me back in SWTOR, we'd have guys like OP too in our core group but only after we were done progging new raids completely. We would just put them on mute and let them do their thing because we just wanted the weekly clears and all that matters in clears are knowing mechs and knowing your rotation.

But yeah, prog phase? Nah, extreme behavior wouldn't work with our group because at the very least, you'd need to be someone who can discuss strats, revisions and improvements calmly and/or civilly. It's okay if once in a while you get heated, that's normal but like consistently? Oof.

[Iscah]

Instead of doing that - go here: https://www.autismspeaks.org/what-autism
This is where I went after I was diagnosed - plenty of information whether it's your child, you as an adult - or especially if you're willing to take the time to understand what autism is.
There's plenty of other sites like it.
There's also wikipedia.
There's also google.
There is zero reason to be ignorant.

While I haven't looked into it myself, apparently a lot of autistic/Asperger's people don't like Autism Speaks and disagree with how they present it as something needing to be cured.

[Vahlnir]

... is this thread still full of people trying to "fix" OP? They're not asking for that. They're asking for people to play with who won't try to change them and where to find those people.

People want to help them figure out how to find a group to do things with. At the same time, the OP doesn't seem to understand why this will be difficult, yet for the rest of us it is plain to see by their various responses riddled with denial and misinformation. They don't want to acknowledge it either. So people are trying to take another approach that is, imo, way more important to all of this than simply "keep looking!" No one is necessarily asking them to change. At the end of the day, people are who they are. They are simply suggesting that they could fit in a bit better if they made a concession or two.