People want to help them figure out how to find a group to do things with. At the same time, the OP doesn't seem to understand why this will be difficult, yet for the rest of us it is plain to see by their various responses riddled with denial and misinformation. They don't want to acknowledge it either. So people are trying to take another approach that is, imo, way more important to all of this than simply "keep looking!" No one is necessarily asking them to change. At the end of the day, people are who they are. They are simply suggesting that they could fit in a bit better if they made a concession or two.