Is there a place for me?

[Sasarayu]

I haven't read all the posts yet, but there's always a place for a competent raider. You literally have to show up, shut up, perform, and go home. Most raid leaders would kill for someone who was no drama, didn't talk, and always showed up on time.

This is how it works in WoW. When I got kicked from my group in FFXIV I became suicidal and stopped playing out of depression but turned to WoW after nine years. I came from nowhere and was within 6 months adopted by a Mythic raiding guild which also pushed some high keys and I was suddenly progressing deep into Antorus The Burning Throne and met new people who although finding me weird valued me highly. When I got the BfA burnout I had standing invitations from two midcore Mythic prog guilds and an M+ static and people who had played my classes (Mage, Boomkin) for years asked me for advice on how to do the DPS I managed to output.

In FFXIV however, it's more about people liking your personality than anything. They rate you mostly as a human being and this I've experienced in most FC's and raid groups when I was lucky enough to find something for a short time.

If I didn't love the game FFXIV so much I would play WoW instead because the gaming model and community at least makes room for people like myself and I can actually get into high end content fairly easy with my ability as a player.

A concrete example of how intolerant FFXIV is would be my first FC which was Swedish FC on Odin. They had two midcore raid groups with an attitude, both striking a bit out of their weight class and usually clearing Creator-level Savage within 2 months. They never treated me as valuable or interesting, just a "threat" to their prestige and ironically enough during early SB they both found themselves with personel and performance problems. Instead of having built a relationship to that SMN who usually outperformed their own DPS quite noticeably, they were forced to recruit people who weren't up to standards. They could have had a really good SMN but they had to find makeshift solutions instead since they wasted that opportunity by trashtalking and bullying me in HW.

That's the level of arrogance I frequently face in FFXIV. In WoW I was welcomed with open arms by players of the same level, not lectured on my "cancerous personality".