How to give advice

[Bellsong]

The good: OP admits they need to practice, they'll hopefully use their frustration to grow, and the guy giving advice was willing to give a whole rotation.

The bad: OP should have practiced their AOE and single target rotations separately since they knew it was a thing before hopping into grouped content, and opening advice with "Let me school you" Is pretty rude and I can totally understand why it would get to someone.

In the end, I think everyone should practice before they hop into grouped content, it helps a ton, If you don't then be prepared for advice or criticism.
I also feel advice should be given kindly and respectfully, if you can't do that don't complain about people getting defensive or being unreceptive to it because you're a part of the problem to.

[Odstarva]

Just as I don't care to play with someone who's "good" but has a horrid, toxic attitude, I'd likewise not want to play with someone who's "bad" just because they are polite and kind. That being said, if I had to pick? I'd pick the "bad" player.

However, I'm only human however and even I have my pet peeves. When a player does something wrong, I'm always reluctant to give pointers because either A) they'll listen, thank me, and try something different (rare occurrence), B) get angry, spew anger and make the rest of the run even harder or C) ignore chat completely (my personal favorite).


I do try to be polite about it, because I know I wouldn't like it if someone yelled at me what I should or shouldn't do (and at that point, I wouldn't care either). So while I understand your frustration OP, and personally sympathize, I also think you should practice your rotations for your own sake. Black mage isn't the easiest job, but it's far from being the most difficult either - and being a job that offers little to no utility, you really need to learn how to push your damage to that next level.

[JohnSeal]

I'm gonna come off as a jerk here but so be it.
A: You know there's a difference between a multi target rotation and single target rotation and
B: You clearly know where the forums are.
You're in the wrong for not having done any research at all to establish even the most basic of rotations in a dungeon. The guy shouldn't have to tell you at all not to use or use a skill, you should, out of courtesy know the bare minimum of using your MT versus ST skills. You may be levelling but you're at least past 50 and you haven't figured out a bare minimum MT rotation? On a BLM? 100% the guy giving you unsolicited advice was certainly tired of dragging you through said dungeon and that likely justifiably colored his/her tone. No one expects raid tier dps in dungeons, but sweet ginger deity of your choosing, you're being rude just showing up like that.

Levelling/ 50/60,70 roulettes are casual content not savage raids! I personally think BLM is the easiest rotation in game lol but still you can’t pretend people doing RESEARCH on how to optimise a class in the best way before entering savage raids or ex trials, I mean is a game and it’s suppose to be not stressing at all IN A CASUAL CONTEST and you can’t make everybody feel the pressure of playing perfectly at all levels
If you are familiar with this kind of game by reading your skills and do a bit of practice you can play at a decent level. Sometimes I find lvl 50 player haviby great performances and other at lvl 70 with 350+ gear that are tremendous but we must to accept that, that’s normal so get jus to it or don’t play casual contents (:
As I said this morning there are ways and ways to give suggestions and recommendations and not everybody know how to tank nicely or just don’t want to.
The OP said he needs improvement and he will slowly but he got the right attitude to learn xD

[MoroMurasaki]

Levelling/ 50/60,70 roulettes are casual content not savage raids!

Screeching 'it's not savage let them be bad' is the reason we have sub 2k dps walking into Savage now confused as to why people are frustrated with them and removing them from parties.

[SenorPatty]

While all this debate is happening, here I am wondering if the two other party members would've waited for the blm to read the rotation link, much less give him/her time to apply and practice while they're in the dgn...

[luicei375]

ITT: Random players you come across can sound like assholes and you just have to deal with it, and realize that you'll probably see this shit again unless you improve.

Or you could always let everyone know that you're still not the best at (insert whatever you are playing) and they would be more likely to shut up and expect the fact that you're not the best.

[JohnSeal]

Screeching 'it's not savage let them be bad' is the reason we have sub 2k dps walking into Savage now confused as to why people are frustrated with them and removing them from parties.

Levelling,50/60 and 70 dangeouns ARE training grounds, and to do savage competence and practice IS A MUST.
If you don’t have enough practice and can’t play well with your class, you should not play savage just for a matter of respect to others. But at low level I don’t think high competency is required and how I said there is a difference between give suggestions and bossy people. The way you formulate sentence makes the difference often.
The op like many others can learn time by time and no need of pressure.

Anyway you don’t need to be a genius or have orange logs to play good runs in savage but it more a matter of practice, you can have the perfect rotation but are not able to dodge so you fail but you can fix that with practise. Same concept for DPS performances, you can improve little by little, run after run as far as you start from a good basic level of knowledge. Nobody is a champions on the first clear.
As a main healer like me you can agree that or performance depends by other performances, less mistakes from party members, better tanks means better scores.
2 k DPS as you say are rare like 1 in a 1000 and mostly people jumping in with no training at all.

[JohnSeal]

The good: OP admits they need to practice, they'll hopefully use their frustration to grow, and the guy giving advice was willing to give a whole rotation.

The bad: OP should have practiced their AOE and single target rotations separately since they knew it was a thing before hopping into grouped content, and opening advice with "Let me school you" Is pretty rude and I can totally understand why it would get to someone.

In the end, I think everyone should practice before they hop into grouped content, it helps a ton, If you don't then be prepared for advice or criticism.
I also feel advice should be given kindly and respectfully, if you can't do that don't complain about people getting defensive or being unreceptive to it because you're a part of the problem to.

That is the point dear... Advice is welcome, positive and encouraged.
Criticism is not! Just pointless and not appreciated by most of people.
Like imagine in a working environment:
Are you ok if colleague criticise you ? I doubt, probably an healthy advice to improve may be better . You can find people ( or colleagues) the criticise just to diminish you and others that give you advice to improve your OTE, l think we all prefer second kind of people to work with.
Same concept applies in ffxiv

[PerrinTaveren]

I can understand your frustration. A reverse thing happened to me yesterday. I joined leveling roulette as tank because i am doing those for tank mounts, and i got lv 67 dungeon. We had a SCH, who had "The Legend" title, which if you don't know for clearing Ultimate Coil of Bahamut. And our BLM had all diamond gear set, which is for clearing savage.

Anyway, we started. This BLM didn't use any of enmity control actions, aka diversion, lucid dreaming etc. I am used to go into dps stance as a tank while tanking so i did it, but BLM didn't use ANY of enmity actions and at the last boss i had to go into tank stance.

As for SCH, let's just say we wiped 4 times. He didn't use any shields, he didn't use his fairy properly. He tried to spam physick while i was in holmgang waiting for some lustrates... He was so terrible, i couldn't even understand. Without his legend title, i would have thought he was new to the game tbh. (And btw it was a regular pull, i didn't pull 2 stacks or anything because i tried it and we wiped ofc).

I didn't complain. Why? Because they would probably kick me because what do i know right? I am a BLM, SCH, WHM main. I never cleared savage but i know how to not snap agro from tanks and how to properly heal.

People are dicks. I suggest get used to it, because there are a lot of them in this game.

[Vidu]

Levelling,50/60 and 70 dangeouns ARE training grounds, and to do savage competence and practice IS A MUST.
If you don’t have enough practice and can’t play well with your class, you should not play savage just for a matter of respect to others. But at low level I don’t think high competency is required and how I said there is a difference between give suggestions and bossy people. The way you formulate sentence makes the difference often.
The op like many others can learn time by time and no need of pressure.

Knowing the difference between an AoE-spell and a ST-spell is "high competency"?
In my book, its not - its part of the very basic-concept and required knowledge as DPS, just how it is very basic and required knowledge as healer to be aware how your healing-spells work and for a tank to know how to hold aggro and how to use cooldowns.

Learning and practising is okay in leveling dungeons, yes - but please show me that you're doing that or I'll give you the needed hint. If someone is casting Thunder IV on a ST repeatedly, chances are that they either never read the tooltip or forgot what it said, which means they'll most likely never find out that they're doing something wrong their. Its not as if they're trying to figure out wether Thunder IV or Thunder III is the stronger spell. All they're doing right in this moment is practising a wrong rotation, which is gonna bite them in the behind later.

The basic-rotations in this game dont require you to be a genius - and knowing the difference between your AoE and your ST toolkit requires nothing more of you than reading your tooltips.
We're not talking about how to use Convert and an Aether to get more Flares out of your rotation.

Why is it always "Oh, if you're not doing savage, you dont need to know what half your skills do!"?
And how is someone supposed to learn in dungeons if they're not aware that or what they need to work on? Your rotation (specially as DPS) is pretty much muscle memory and thats what you should practise in a dungeon: Using your correct rotation for the situation (AoE vs. ST) blindley. Obviously that requires you to know this rotation before. You're not in a dungeon to figure out what your spells do and to read the tooltips, while the rest of your party patiently waits for your to do your homework in class.
I'll give leeway for the first 4 dungeons though, for people who are really new to the genre, but past that I expect a healer to do more than spam their stromgest healing-skill, a tank to use cooldowns and their aggro-skills and a DPS to know the difference between AoE and ST.

Long story short: Yes, dungeons are training grounds, but you're not learning anything if you train the wrong stuff.
I've never been to a gym, but I would hope that if someone uses some of the equiment there in a wrong way, someone else would come over to tell them "Hey, you're holding this wrong, let me show you!"