Don't ask, don't tell - Relationship Thought Experiment

[Azurymber]

The issue is that you're saying it's not okay to value gender more than those things and that its actually transphobic. It isn't. It's called having a static sexuality.

If you meet someone IRL and they look female, but were born male. And they don't immediately inform you. And you fall for them. Then yeah, if you get upset at them when they tell you they were born male, that's transphobic. If someone is living or expressing themselves as a specific gender, they have the right to do that. You aren't entitled to that information the second you meet them.

In final fantasy, if people express themselves as their preferred gender, that's their right. They aren't "fake." They aren't a problem.
In real life, if people express themselves as their preferred gender, that's their right. They aren't "fake." They aren't a problem.

Getting upset because some people playing a female character and expressing themselves as being female were actually born male is literally transphobia. It's an expectation that trans people inform everyone they are trans.