Quote Originally Posted by KaldeaSahaline View Post
Don't be. Trial by fire. I've overpulled with shitty healers before and wiped the party. It was my fault just as much as everyone elses. The healer tried their best and couldn't do it. I apologized for overpulling and moved on. I didn't make excuses or call the healer shit. He knows it was part his fault that he couldn't do it. In some situations I've had to explain to WHM's how Holy works and why it's the best defensive cooldown in the game for dungeons.

People don't get as mad about wipes if you own it. In fact, I've done some stupid shit before and as long as you own it and don't make excuses people are generally pretty good about it.

I've had healers who say they had no idea they could handle X because they never tried and were glad I took them out of comfort zone.

As an 'elitist' as I've been called on many forums I'll NEVER be mad or upset with someone who tries and fails. But not trying? That's a shame.
How about not trial by fire and instead actively gauge your healer's capabilities when in a pug. Caution coupled with critical thinking is the best option to not waste everyone's time and kill the mood. You brush it off with a "Haha, whoops" and I'm sitting here rolling my eyes as we have to re-commence, it's annoying. I would not give you crap about it but I'm still bothered none-the-less.

It's great that some healers showed appreciation for this, and I'm sure others you have or haven't ran with were/would be pretty cross about it. But some may still be getting their bearings, and trying to build up their ability as they go. Pushing them into the fire face first is not going to sit well with everyone, even those trying to improve themselves, and it could end up doing damage beyond the run.

You think on such extreme levels, I wouldn't call you elitist, just that there's more ways to deal with a situation that running to smash your face into a wall and dealing with the consequences afterwards.