Okay...this thread has definitely morphed into several different topics. Which is fine, because I'm at a point where I want to learn something anyhow. For all those stance dancers....since it's generally agreed upon that going DPS stance is the best way to maximize the potential of your tanks after your initial aggro combo, is anybody willing to provide specific advice? For example, I was a DRK main for the longest, but I was terrified of dropping stances if I was MT because I was worried of losing aggro. And that fear was one primary reason I quit tanking entirely. Picking up PLD, but that same fear is still there.

So for DRK and PLD...how should I be doing stance dancing? In dungeons as well as trials? Like, how can you be confident that you will not lose hate because of it? Because to be perfectly honest, now I'm afraid that what the OP experienced will happen to me.