I am infuriated and in tears, about to quit again

[Adire]

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If we had the tools to deal with this issue, this thread would not exist and this situation would not be so common for people. Why vote to bring someone in? Because 2 hands are still better than one, even if you only actually need one.

I am comprehending that actually. That's why I said it's no one's fault in many cases.

Though I do agree with you there, the OP should be rolling bard if he wants a serious chance at getting bard gear.