Quote Originally Posted by KisaiTenshi View Post
Big, wall-to-wall pulls are annoying when the tank does not telegraph they are going to do that.
No, they're not.

The problem is you: you should assume a tank will pull W2W until they demonstrate otherwise. The tank shouldn't need to "telegraph" it.
Really, what were you doing when that non-telegraphed W2W pull happened? Were you DPS-ing ? Is that why you weren't ready?
If so, maybe you should have queued as a DPS.

Part of the fun of healing in pugs is the challenge of adapting to the variety of tank classes and player skills and personalities.
If you can't do that without a "trigger warning" then maybe you aren't suited to the role.

This is an introspection all unhappy healers (or anyone unhappy in any other role) should engage in: are you sure you're emotionally suite to the role?
For example, I have a friend in FFXIV who I've played beside (as a healer) for years (and in other MMOs before ARR was even an idea), and while on his worst day he can out-tank and out-DPS me on my best, he's tried healing and decided that he just didn't want the responsibilities (e.g., for catching and fixing other people's mistakes) that comes with the role. So since isn't healing fun for him, he simply doesn't do it -- or complain about it.

Me, healing is fun for. My spouse, who spent this evening on Discord expressing her frustration about a series of bad tanks she experiences while doing Dungeons to rank up the new FC on Kraken, it's also fun for. The same role some people here are so unhappy with, we're happy with. And it's not an issue of smarts or skills or dedication: it's a matter of pure personal preference, a matter of taste, of motivation, of what we each personally find fun and rewarding.

If healing doesn't make you happy, why are you so desperate for that particular role to be your happy place?
Do you think SE owes you that: that they are obliged to re-design healers to suit you, and to hell with the players who like it as it is?

For years now healers unhappy with what FFXIV healing is and has become have been complaining in the forums, and they're still unhappy.
It reminds of that popular definition of insanity: repeatedly doing the same thing over and over and thinking that this time, the result will be different, and be what's desired. The no-job/sex-specific-glams crowd has the same history, and IMHO even less chance of success.

The change you advocate won't be what my spouse and I desire. We're happy with WHM and SGE, respectively, as they are.
And we're a bit fed up, in the real world, with vocal extremists ruining so many of the good things in the world.
We're probably not alone in either of those sentiments.