And there's the rub, one side considers anything below their standards to be "charity weapons" and "unearned". There's no discussion that can really happen when one side comes to the discussion with loaded statements like that.
You can't compromise with it, it's their way or they're going to say that the relics "mean nothing".

Endwalker brought a nice idea to the table, that maybe taking the relics and locking them behind content people otherwise wouldn't like is a bad idea. You might need to tweak the numbers, but having an open path to set your own goals to get the relic is better for more players than forcing players to engage with something like Bozja they might not like just to progress their relic. Taking something people want and putting it behind content they don't like is not going to get them to like the content any more than before. It just makes players more resentful and frustrated that they have to grind content they hate to get the reward they want.