Quote Originally Posted by IkaraGreydancer View Post
Once more...empathy doesn't forgo facts. I can be empathic yet still acknowledge the fact of the matter. That's what YOU aren't getting. I get wanting to keep a home you worked on but me saying you aren't forced to do anything doesn't all of a sudden make me someone who lacks empathy. Per the definition of force it literally doesn't apply here. Also I love the assumptions you're making. I don't join big fcs. I don't care for meat farms. Next how tf do you know I don't raise funds? I give money anytime our fc needs stuff. (Mostly being airship mats). I don't craft at all but I'll go gather or buy mats for my fc. House was decorated a year before I got to my current fc. Nothing you say will take my fun out of doing anything. You're a random in a site full of randoms, myself included lol

Don't tell me I don't comprehend the stress of getting a house. You weren't around when I was staying up days at a time clicking placards trying to get a home. You weren't around for when I had health complications from doing that very thing. Skipping meals and putting off bathroom visits because "those few minutes might make me miss the right time". Staying up days at a time across weeks just for someone to come in and relocate making all that time pointless. Feeling like I failed my partner multiple times because I couldn't get us a home. Eventually it payed off but id never EVER put myself through that again. Don't you fucking tell me that I don't get it! You don't know me! Get tf off my case with your baseless assumptions, thank you VERY much.
the physical and mental toll it takes to get a house in FF14 is unreal which is why losing it feels like a gut-punch. in ESO my partner just bought a guild-hall for us, and it's instanced so our dark brotherhood "kvatch" sanctuary is still around even though we took a break from the game.