Tank entitlement vs group entitlement

[Mavrias]

For all they knew, the tank was new or inexperienced and was still learning. In that case, what they did amounted to blatant bullying. Not acceptable.

so, when does the excuse "new and inexperienced" fall flat? when should your party be able to criticize someone without them going "im new its not fair to expect me to try to meet any sort of expectation or standard or request"


not liking something someone did does not mean you were bullied.

[SerLuke]

Generally when I run a 50/60/70 dungeon as my PLD I pull based on how well the healer is geared, if we're killing really slow with big pulls for whatever reason I'll switch to pulling small. However if a healer asks that I pull small I'll respect the request and do it. For leveling dungeons I don't like the pull as big simply cause there's less of an advantage to doing so and pulling too big in a leveling dungeon can also make things really hard on the healer though mostly cause higher ilvls don't give as much advantage as they do in 50/60/70 content.

[Kaedan]

so, when does the excuse "new and inexperienced" fall flat? when should your party be able to criticize someone without them going "im new its not fair to expect me to try to meet any sort of expectation or standard or request"


not liking something someone did does not mean you were bullied.

Wow, talk about strawman from left field.

Context my friend. Stay within it. In this case, the tank was pulling single groups rather than gathering multiple groups. They are meeting the dungeon's standards of design, and thus perfectly within the bounds of reason and thus kicking them was blatant harassment.

As I said, if the tank is AFKing or going ridiculously slow for no reason, then that is a completely different story.


EDIT: Furthermore, if it's their first time tanking the dungeon or they are otherwise inexperienced, they aren't going to improve if you kick them. They're just going to get pissed off and never tank again (making dps queues that much longer).

You asked about the "line"? The line is when someone is obviously trolling/wasting time vs taking it slow (read: not unreasonably) due to lack of experience or lack of confidence.

[Mavrias]

Wow, talk about strawman from left field.

Context my friend. Stay within it. In this case, the tank was pulling single groups rather than gathering multiple groups. They are meeting the dungeon's standards of design, and thus perfectly within the bounds of reason and thus kicking them was blatant harassment.

As I said, if the tank is AFKing or going ridiculously slow for no reason, then that is a completely different story.

lmao i didnt make up "what if they were new and inexperienced" it was literally in the comment i replied to. thats not a strawman.


being kicked is not being harassed. the party thinking i dont want to play with this person (for whatever reason) and then removing them from the group is not harassment.

[Kaedan]

lmao i didnt make up "what if they were new and inexperienced" it was literally in the comment i replied to. thats not a strawman.


being kicked is not being harassed. the party thinking i dont want to play with this person (for whatever reason) and then removing them from the group is not harassment.

It very much is if they were kicked for the reason the OP laid out in OP. The tank was not being unreasonable and was playing within the design parameters of the content.

Your strawman, btw, was "it's not fair for me to meet any kind of expectation". That's hyperbole to the extreme, and not at all within the context of what's being discussed.

The situation is this: The tank was pulling 1 group at a time rather than gathering 2-3 groups. There is nothing wrong with that at all, and kicking said tank for it was quite clearly harassment. Yes, there are "lines" of what is acceptable and what isn't (which I gave examples of), but this situation is not at all one that called for kicking

[Mavrias]

It very much is if they were kicked for the reason the OP laid out in OP. The tank was not being unreasonable and was playing within the design parameters of the content.

Your strawman, btw, was "it's not fair for me to meet any kind of expectation". That's hyperbole to the extreme, and not at all within the context of what's being discussed.

The situation is this: The tank was pulling 1 group at a time rather than gathering 2-3 groups. There is nothing wrong with that at all, and kicking said tank for it was quite clearly harassment. Yes, there are "lines" of what is acceptable and what isn't (which I gave examples of), but this situation is not at all one that called for kicking

the content is not what determines a kick. the party is the ones kicking you, not the group. if they dont want to play with someone, even in the situation in the OP, they don't have to. thats what the kick and leave functions are for. differences in playstyle has been cited multiple times as a valid reason to kick another party member.

perhaps the emphasis of "any expectation" is hyperbole but still expectations are not being met and i feel that honestly by level 70 the excuse of being inexperienced does not hold.

[Kaedan]

the content is not what determines a kick. the party is the ones kicking you, not the group. if they dont want to play with someone, even in the situation in the OP, they don't have to. thats what the kick and leave functions are for. differences in playstyle has been cited multiple times as a valid reason to kick another party member.

perhaps the emphasis of "any expectation" is hyperbole but still expectations are not being met and i feel that honestly by level 70 the excuse of being inexperienced does not hold.

The bolded line in your response is simply not true. The kick system is very often abused and used for harassment purposes. There are hundreds and thousands of valid reports and punishments made for people unreasonably kicking someone from a group (especially if the non-kicked members are pre-made).

Yes, you are correct that kicking someone =/= harassment... necessarily. But it can be, and often is.

The situation outlined by the OP is not one in which the tank was being unreasonable, and there was no valid reason to kick the tank. And frankly, that is the entire point of this thread. Not whether there are or are not situations where kicking is acceptable (that's quite obvious that there are).


There is a such thing as expectations being objectively too high. And this is one of those. It's not like the tank was losing threat constantly or dying constantly or afking. All he was doing is going a tiny bit slower than he possibly could have (large group pulling actually doesn't shave that much time off your dungeon run, btw).

When you see the "there is someone who hasn't done this dungeon before" message pop up, and it's the tank, do you immediately kick them? If not, that right there is a reasonable example of an inexperienced tank at level 70.

[cicatriz313]

When you see the "there is someone who hasn't done this dungeon before" message pop up, and it's the tank, do you immediately kick them? If not, that right there is a reasonable example of an inexperienced tank at level 70.

Why would you kick someone for not having done a dungeon before? Not sure if we are playing the same game, but most 4 man dungeons since like the hard modes at level 50 have been easy to pull to the wall and aoe. I think that's what their point is, at level 70 you know that's the norm and inexperience isn't really the excuse anymore. There's plenty of other excuses, bad gear, bad healer, refusal to do it because "you don't pay my sub" etc but experience only really matters for boss fights in these dungeons. As for your point about it not being a valid reason to kick the tank, the group asked the tank to pull more and said they were had his back, tank refused flat out, group imo had every right to remove him and roll the roulette again. I wouldn't personally because who knows how long that'd take to replace a tank, but I think whether it's reasonable or not is up to that individual.

[Mavrias]

The bolded line in your response is simply not true. The kick system is very often abused and used for harassment purposes. There are hundreds and thousands of valid reports and punishments made for people unreasonably kicking someone from a group (especially if the non-kicked members are pre-made).

Yes, you are correct that kicking someone =/= harassment... necessarily. But it can be, and often is.

The situation outlined by the OP is not one in which the tank was being unreasonable, and there was no valid reason to kick the tank. And frankly, that is the entire point of this thread. Not whether there are or are not situations where kicking is acceptable (that's quite obvious that there are).


There is a such thing as expectations being objectively too high. And this is one of those. It's not like the tank was losing threat constantly or dying constantly or afking. All he was doing is going a tiny bit slower than he possibly could have (large group pulling actually doesn't shave that much time off your dungeon run, btw).

When you see the "there is someone who hasn't done this dungeon before" message pop up, and it's the tank, do you immediately kick them? If not, that right there is a reasonable example of an inexperienced tank at level 70.

and i am saying that the reason given by the people in OP's discord was a valid one. they did not want to play with that tank, so they replaced him when they confirmed that said tank was not going to at least try to big pull. none of that was harassment.

what? being new is not grounds for being kicked and never did i say that. if you are new to content and are using that as an excuse to not work with your group or do your best i personally dont agree with it, but again that is up to the party.

in this specific example, you can be new to a dungeon and still make an attempt to big pull.

[Fland]

The situation outlined by the OP is not one in which the tank was being unreasonable, and there was no valid reason to kick the tank. And frankly, that is the entire point of this thread. Not whether there are or are not situations where kicking is acceptable (that's quite obvious that there are).


There is a such thing as expectations being objectively too high. And this is one of those. It's not like the tank was losing threat constantly or dying constantly or afking. All he was doing is going a tiny bit slower than he possibly could have (large group pulling actually doesn't shave that much time off your dungeon run, btw).

When you see the "there is someone who hasn't done this dungeon before" message pop up, and it's the tank, do you immediately kick them? If not, that right there is a reasonable example of an inexperienced tank at level 70.

Was the tank new and inexperienced in OP's case?
They didn't elaborate on that.

But even if the tank was new, they didn't just immediately kick them. They ask them to do larger pulls and ensured them that it would be fine if it wouldn't go smoothly, but the tank didn't even bother to try. We didn't know how the tank actually responded when asked.