Sexual harassment

[Elamys]

My question is why does it need to be one or the other? One can still reprimand a person for their actions while consoling and helping them through the next stages.

Because it literally achieves nothing. The victim already blames themselves.

I learned a lot from the police that reprimanded me after I was mugged. I got a lot out of that talk with the officers. The talk I had with them taught me that I have personal responsibility for my actions, I cannot control those around me but I can control my own actions and I was taught that each choice we make in life has inherent risk, and if I am not comfortable with the potential risks it is probably best I do not do said action.

Look, I'm gonna assume you probably already knew you have personal responsibility to yourself. Everyone already knows that. It's likely that you already knew that there'd be an inherent risk in withdrawing money from the ATM at that time. To be honest, you would have to be extremely dense to not already know that.

When the tire in my brother's car blew out because I didn't remember to put air in it, it didn't matter that I didn't remember that and it didn't matter that he should have replaced the tire a long time ago. While we were sitting there berating each other for the things we had done wrong, what really mattered was that I was stuck on a rural highway with a blown out tire. We knew we were each at fault in this situation, but it wasn't important. All we were doing was wasting time. The committer of a crime is the person at fault for the crime. We all know that. What did it matter that you could have taken steps to prevent that from happening to you? You made a mistake, it happened, but you didn't do anything wrong. You were perfectly within your rights to visit that ATM and withdraw cash at night, and frankly, the police were very unprofessional to bother with reprimanding you for doing something legal when they should have been focused on the person who mugged you.