Sexual harassment

[SomeRandomHuman]

How to deal with sexual harassment in an MMO:
1. Block and Report the offender
2. Move on with your life. If it bothers you so badly, then seek proper mental/emotional assistance on top of it.
3. If the offender tries to reach out again via alt or third party repeat step 1.
4. If you go through steps 1-3 several times and the GM team does nothing about it, then its time to head to SE's customer service and share your experiences or skip to step 5.
5. Repeat step 1 one final time and stop playing for a while or permanently depending on your level of faith left by this point.

Sexual harassment sucks anywhere. There's only so much one can do on their own. You do what you can since that's all you can do.

[Corfish]

How to deal with sexual harassment in an MMO:

Ok, maybe I need to shout this for people who apparently can't read.

MOST ABUSE CASES ARE NOT ABOUT RANDOS. MOST ABUSERS ARE TRUSTED INDIVIDUALS WHO CAN TAKE ADVANTAGE OF THE PERSON BEING ABUSED. BLOCKING, IGNORING, CHANGING SERVERS ETC. WORK WHEN THE PERSON IS JUST SOME RANDO WHO HARASSES ANYONE WHO PASSES BY. BUT IF THE RANDO GETS A PARTICULAR BUG UP THEIR BUTT YOU MIGHT HAVE NO CHOICE BUT TO DELETE EVERYTHING TO ESCAPE THEM.

AND CHANCES ARE, THE WORST ABUSERS ARE NOT GOING TO BE SOME RANDO, IT WILL BE SOMEONE YOU THOUGHT GENUINELY CARED ABOUT YOU. THIS IS WHY ABUSE IS SUCH A TRICKY PROBLEM, BECAUSE THEY EARNED THE TRUST OF THE ABUSED PERSON.

[QT_Melon]

Ok, maybe I need to shout this for people who apparently can't read.

MOST ABUSE CASES ARE NOT ABOUT RANDOS. MOST ABUSERS ARE TRUSTED INDIVIDUALS WHO CAN TAKE ADVANTAGE OF THE PERSON BEING ABUSED.

What's great about the people that are ignoring what you're writing is that in the case of the what prompted this topic to begin with, people are belittling the issue to "Guy finds crazy hard up women that send him nude pics".

The thing is, it's not even that. The stories are people who created a friends network in game, and this guy comes into their lives. He's involved with everyone. So he harassed them right? Okay block and move on. Except that people were friends with each other in the FC, he found a way to interfere with activities that surrounded the game, like the magazine.

He wasn't just blackmailing a ton of females that sent him nude pics.
He bullied women when they didn't go for his sexual advances.
He constantly made sexual advances even when the topic wasn't welcome.
He made threats to some people's jobs (even if they were unpaid ones).
He used his influence and clout to make sure these women were ostracized from their network of friends or community.
He also did the same to male members if he felt they were too close to a female he was interested in for what ever reason.


So yeah, the not all the women he harassed sent him nude pics he could later blackmail (and even then that's besides the point).

He was treating women and men pretty poorly in order to control or manipulate things to his outcome.

[SomeRandomHuman]

Ok, maybe I need to shout this for people who apparently can't read.

MOST ABUSE CASES ARE NOT ABOUT RANDOS. MOST ABUSERS ARE TRUSTED INDIVIDUALS WHO CAN TAKE ADVANTAGE OF THE PERSON BEING ABUSED. BLOCKING, IGNORING, CHANGING SERVERS ETC. WORK WHEN THE PERSON IS JUST SOME RANDO WHO HARASSES ANYONE WHO PASSES BY. BUT IF THE RANDO GETS A PARTICULAR BUG UP THEIR BUTT YOU MIGHT HAVE NO CHOICE BUT TO DELETE EVERYTHING TO ESCAPE THEM.

AND CHANCES ARE, THE WORST ABUSERS ARE NOT GOING TO BE SOME RANDO, IT WILL BE SOMEONE YOU THOUGHT GENUINELY CARED ABOUT YOU. THIS IS WHY ABUSE IS SUCH A TRICKY PROBLEM, BECAUSE THEY EARNED THE TRUST OF THE ABUSED PERSON.

This changes nothing in the advice I posted. All it does is say the obvious that probably occurred in a lot of people's minds.