Sexual harassment

[Elamys]

Saying that the only person that can actively protect themselves from such behavior is the "you" is not wrong. While it is tough to hear and may sound harsh the reality is it is your fault for not seeing the signs for whatever reason. We are human mistakes happen, all we can do is learn from them and take steps to ensure the same mistake does not happen again.

Let me phrase this in a different way.

If your house isn't locked, and someone comes in and robs it, is it your fault for being robbed? Or is it the fault of the person who robbed you?

The law has made it clear that regardless of door locked vs. unlocked, it is still the fault of the person who robbed you and you are not at fault for the crime, and the robber will still face criminal charges. While you should lock your door to avoid being robbed, you don't abdicate your right to legal recourse when you are robbed because your door was unlocked. He still faces charges, because you weren't asking to be robbed. Just like someone wasn't asking to be abused because they may have told the wrong person the wrong information online. The person who does the abuse is still an abuser, and it's THEIR FAULT ONLY for abusing the person.

You don't have to abuse someone just because you have the information to do so.