Quote Originally Posted by Jas710 View Post
A mentor who doesn't understand why some folks go on the defensive after receiving advice they didn't ask for? Keep that crown off until you figure it out.
Are you saying mentors should just not mentor unless asked for help?

Mentor system seems flawed because everyone has their own opinions on what a mentor should do and basically says every mentor should uphold their standard otherwise they are a bad mentor, yet in general you won't know what someone elses standard is unless they openly tell you. Usually people don't so then you just end up with a "I ran into a bad mentor" stories on the forum. Some mentors do cross that line in to actually being bad in a general sense if they are rude and/or don't at least give help if asked, but sometimes it is hard to draw a line anywhere above that basic level.

Like I see people say "only give advice if someone asked, don't give unsolicited advice" and then you have the other half saying "you should be actively giving help, you should be actively giving advice, you shouldn't be a mentor if you are going to stay silent". Some people think a mentor should try to mentor even if the run is going generally fine and no mistakes much, while others would get upset that you would try to say or suggest optimized ways to do things better because it is elitist or "who cares this content is faceroll".

It's impossible to please everyone so that's why we get so much mentor flak. One mentor did something this way and this person didn't like it while another likes that mentor for the same behavior. Cannot win.