Long topic is long and I've only just read it now.

I'll just leave the next few words about my own thoughts of this.

Firstly,
Why even create such a thread? You had a bad experience with a dps in a run. Then what's the big deal? Everyone had bad experiences with someone, something in this game. And most likely on many occasions. As a fellow tank, I can attest to that. But that does not mean it happens all the time. This situation has nothing to do with dps being entitled. It's just someone being a bit of a jerk. And as far I know, this world has them. And you simply learn to deal with them or ignore them. And if you need to vent, do the same as me and vent it ingame with ls members.


Secondly,
I feel you both were in the wrong. But I have to admit that the DPS was definately an oddball. "I only have one AoE" Yeah...then why didn't he use it. That's what its for after all lol.
But you as tank are also partly to blame for feeling the entitlement that you control the entire run. Yes, we lead the run. But a leader is nothing without followers. And vice versa. But again, from what I read. It does really seem that the DPS was more in the wrong. Considering you tried to compromise, by pulling large mobs and AoE'ing them down. On the other hand, this might have been the highest leveled job the dps had. And he might not be familiar with speedruns/group pulls. Hence, why he might have thought that one AoE didn't cut it.

Remember, speed runs and large pulls only started with the higher ilvl instances. Players who just started to play won't really be familiar with those things at that level.

Just some food for thought.