Maybe you should stop soloing until 30?
It is the mindset like this that frightens me. When I had to take my PUG to 15 for my WHM know what I did? I grab some leves, went out to the camp and started inviting every single person I saw. /tell'd them if they wanted a PT and grew up my group to 8/8 inside of 20 minutes. Continued with those same people all the way to 15 nearly 2 hours later.
There are people in down who /shout their jobs and ask for PL's. I tell them why not looking for a Party instead of sitting around wasting time spamming the chat? They had no idea they could use the search function. Flag people who are already in PT around their range and ask if they needed reps soon. It is this fast easy effortless PLing that has gone rampant that has denied new players motivation to LEARN how to get better. I never wait around for stuff to just fall in my lap. I get the ball rolling, explore all my options, and make it happen. I do this because in FFXI if you did nothing but wait for experience you sat in Jueno for 3 hours.
Personal assertiveness is lacking in this game and you are presenting it in true form. I don't even hate you now. It is clear that you are actually just lacking experience and the knowledge you would have gained if you were forced to level the "hard" way. Tools and mindsets that help you through the entire career of the game.
~~~DO YOU HAVE ANY IDEA HOW FAST YOU WERE SCROLLING?~~~
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