Quote Originally Posted by KalinOrthos View Post
Snideness aside, no one knows they are doing something badly.
Exactly- and that seems the case with all the people claiming they're giving polite, good advice yet constantly being treated like they're being rude. They clearly have no idea that they're not nearly as polite or constructive as they think they are.


They have to be told or shown, otherwise they're going to continue as they were. The phrase "If it ain't broke" exists for a reason. They don't realize that the way they are playing is bad, and need to be told what they are doing wrong. For instance, I had a ninja who never used Trick Attack, one of the core aspects of the class. I had to tell them "Hey, if you use Suiton, it'll let you do Trick Attack, which raises everyone's damage" before they actually started using it. All they needed was a push. No one is going to zone into an instance with "I want advice", and the thought that you think they would is naive, at best.
I've seen plenty of players ask for advice, largely on forums or guides because they're actively looking for ways to get better, or through a guild, or through a premade. Of course, those numbers pale in comparison to the amount of elitists who have given unwanted 'advice' that is rarely helpful and even more rarely polite- perhaps because elitists have a tendency of honing in on the weakest link or newest player and doing all they can to make them feel unwelcome. If there's a reason asking for help isn't as common as it should be it stems from the consistent, abusive way elite players treat newbies in online games. If you actually want to help players, but are utterly unwilling to GAF about what that player wants before you start telling them how bad they are at the game- then you probably don't actually want to help players out and use the guise of 'polite advice' as an excuse to be toxic, so you can turn around and act shocked that your unwanted advice wasn't kindly received.