This really sucks for you OP, but I can't sympathize with you. For having owned a house for so long, not only did you ignore it completely for 80 days (even though you were still playing), but you never, not once, knew about auto demo? I don't buy it. It's been mentioned in patch notes several times. The lodestone is not some foreign entity that you're not responsible for checking. There are links to updates, patch notes, notifications etc on the launcher every single time you launch the game. And to top it all off, you need a list of the items you lost because you can't remember what they were? Well then they must not have been that important to you. I'm sorry you're quitting, but this is 100% because of negligence on your part.