Sexual harassment

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Again, a potential abuser can get information from you far before they show signs of being an abuser...people don't just immediately start acting like that, they get close to you first, and if they have that information on you, and threaten to use it against you (show up at your house or place of work, or doxx you, or anything like that) how is blocking them going to help? Even reporting to a GM may not help because SE will only act on information relayed in game. Please stop blaming victims for this, it's really not a good look for you. Oh, and police frequently don't take reports of online harassment seriously, much like the rest of you here.

They make multiple accounts or alts, you block them, they have their friends help, you block them, they follow you around in game well you can't help that, they say bad things about you to others you can't necessarily defend yourself, you transfer servers or change character names and they find out where you went (remember it's EXTREMELY easy to find out a character's new name via Lodestone ID), you delete an old character and start over and they may STILL find you, in the meantime all of this is extremely mentally and emotionally taxing and suddenly you no longer want to participate in an activity you once loved and enjoyed and you drift away from the communities you were a part of and if they have RL information you may even be worried about that. But yeah, blocking will solve the problem.

There's a reason why the police don't take it very seriously. It's not very serious. Honestly if some gossiping person came up to me and told me information about someone, primarily negative, I'd wonder what their problem is, moreso than the person they are talking about. I mean, what information is so dastardly that you must concede to some random online? Your address? What's that going to do? Why do they even have your address to begin with? Will they send you manure in a box? Glitter bomb? That's a physical thing.

You don't even need to transfer servers. If someone is stalking you to this degree, you can report that. Again, in the time it takes them to make a new account (which also needs a new email, etc) you blocking them gives them a net loss in time. No one will keep this up. I think the victim complex needs to ease up. People have far more power than they think, especially online.

And I'm sorry but if you give anyone your address or even nudes of yourself with your face in it, I mean, that's on you. Yes obviously the person using this against you is bad, but honestly, why would you give anyone your address online? I get it. Emotional abuse, manipulation, etc, etc. But this isn't a FFXIV problem.

Ha! So the creepy Guild leader who basically got me to the point where I chose to abandon another game and three characters I'd put a lot of time into, rather than deal with any more unwanted advances, suggestive gifts, creepy comments etc, wasn't really harassing me? It certainly felt real.

I'm not talking about a throwaway line about my character's looks or a single invite to ERP, this was weeks of following my character around and constant pestering via chat and in-game mail. I honestly don't think anyone who dismisses this sort of behaviour as trivial can have experienced it.

I mean, it sounds like you overreacted. Just block him, leave the guild if necessary. Losing 3 characters over it? Sorry but I think you need to toughen up. You know what I did when I got a stalker? I ended things and blocked them.