Quote Originally Posted by whiskeybravo View Post
5 simple words:

"You don't pay my sub."

For real, if they don't like how you're playing then tell them they are free to vote kick. 95% of the time they'll shut up and act like nothing happened. If they don't, stop healing them. Let them die and don't rez.
This is the worst piece of advice I've heard in a while - thats a damn shitty attitude that no one should have and that certainly should not be encouraged, specially not to a new person.

After all this is as an MMO a team-based game - expressing not wanting to be part of this team will only escalate situations more - I'll happly kick and remove anyone with an attitude like that from my parties. On the other hand if the person asks or listens to advice I'm quite tolerant and I know a lot of other people here to be the same.
Your response shouldnt be "You dont pay my sub!" but rather "Okay, tell me how to improve then!" and trying to actually do that - improve. As others have pointed out: Only healing is a no-no in this game. And at a certain level you're rightfully expected to know the basics of your job (that means healing AND dpsing for a healer in this game) - its no reason for outright harrassment if you dont but its also your job to go into content prepared.
Read a guide.
Join the NN.
Find friends/FC/LS with people who are willing to go through dungeons slowly to teach you the basics.
Ask for advice and take it.

Dont become one of the "You dont pay my sub"-people... thats not gonna help anyone.