Tanks and super pulls

[VanilleFang]

Okay so there's a bit I need/want to reply to here and I'm on my phone so bear with me!

Kugane

Which pull are you talking about here specifically? The last stretch before Yojimbo? I don't really know what to say. It takes good spell and ability usage to heal through a pull like that, as well as a tank who knows how to use CDs. Things like HG and Holy can make it a bit easier.

* a wipe occurs *

I'll be a little blunt here. Any here who ends up leaving because they said that big pulls were okay and the party wipes is not worth their salt as a healer.
If the wipe was the healer's fault then they should apologize. I personally will tell me team "my b. I was slow with x" or "Oh sorry. My fault. I guess I wasn't ready." I will then either tell them to try again if they want or they can pull slower. If it wasn't the healer's fault (tank cleaved party/DPS is super low/tank doesn't use cds/etc) then they shouldn't feel any guilt at all. In those situations I either say "I don't know what happened" or "our DPS is a little low maybe we should try pulling smaller". Maybe it's just me but having a tough skin (especially as healer and tank) is almost a requirement.

i can confirm this question can lead to problems.

Personal anecdotes aren't really confirmation. It may happen but it's not a guarantee nor does it make that outcome the norm. I understand what you are saying but I've had entirely different experiences as a healer.

1 button

That's assuming the dps is up to snuff. Cure II spam is fine but it's not very MP efficient. I know healers don't really need to worry too much about MP end game but if DPS is crazy low Cure II spam could cause some issues with MP. And if DPS is low and the healer can't help with killing things than the big pull was pointless.

trust tank

I'm under the assumption if they are asking than they know what they are doing. If they don't then they shouldn't be asking. It's a partnership between healers and tanks. If one can't hold up their side of the partnership than it won't work. That's why I think it should be agreed with between both the tank and healer (though I am the type to assume that big pulls are the default). It's presumptuous to think it's just the tank that determines the success of a pull. I've personally healed through pulls where the tank was basically a fish out of water.

inexperienced healer?

I'm not? I'm saying that if the tank doesn't know the healer has no experience and they pull big because of the assumption that they can "push 1 button" and things go to hell it could possibly turn out the same how you described in your original post, or worse. If they were to ask before the pull they could have avoided the wipe if the healer replies with "no". Like I said, it's a partnership.