Quote Originally Posted by VanilleFang View Post
Uuuuh. What? Doom and gloom much? That's a very dramatic escalation you assume there...
Sry, if that came off a little doomy and gloomy. I try to trace back issues where party's fall apart when I can, and this question and been a culprit several times. I know my personal experiences of the issues i've seen this question cause arent enough to really enough to say: "this question is bad". However, I can confirm several times over that it can be a catalyst in groups falling apart. That, coupled with the fact that there is really no benefit in asking this question, I would strongly recommend that it not be asked.

The "group falling apart scenario" that i see this contribute to goes like this:
tank: big pulls okay?
healer: yes please!
* a wipe occurs *
healer thinks to themselves: i just gave permission to pull big and we wiped! I need to let the party know it was the tank's fault! (or something else such as: that was embarrassing, im just gonna drop party)
Then it goes downhill from there.

Asking healers if they are find with big pulls is mostly a courtesy.
As mentioned earlier, i can confirm this question can lead to problems. I want to address this part to explain why this question has no real value.

PUG summary:
For the tank to answer a question like "big pulls okay?" to themselves, they just need to (at the very least) assume the healer is capable of pressing 1 button repeatedly (ex: cure II spam). It's not a very bold assumption to be making.
I mean, I could technically ask if they know how to spam cure II, but I think it would probably come off as patronizing lol.

For the healer to answer a question like "big pulls okay?", they need to trust that the tank knows how to pull properly, uses cooldowns appropriately, holds threat, knows how far they can pull, etc. which is a much bigger assumption. The answer they give is based on a much larger set of unknowns than the tank's answer.

And if you pull big without asking and the healer isn't very experienced...
An alternative way of thinking is: Why would you want an inexperienced healer to set something as important pace?