As a healer, is it my job to DPS? A new perspective.

[Feyona]

Thanks, so let us leave that aside by now.

Really difficult to explain parataxic distortion here. Basically, its a defence mechanism, based on a distorted evaluation. Is this case its distorted because it was perceived like that, where it wasnt about you at all. Here I would say, from reading posts that people have already put me into a certain frame of reference (from earler significant others) and expect my responses to be derrogatory towards them, which I actually never intended but have been put in that 'box' Therefore anything I say is perceived as being aimed at them as intentional attack or something even when it isnt, but gets distorted in by the expectation from one in that category. So if you perceive me as saying burden that its aimed at you that is parataxic distortion. But being as I noted your not english and I wrote it badly it was innappropriate. Hope that answers your question