Whoa, whoa, whoa... Hold on there, Tanking Friend.

I understand that the Tank in a run has the choice in the matter of what to pull and what not, this much is true as you stated.

However, we gotta stop and look at the actions taken.

Yes, just outright saying "no skipping anything" is rude and demanding.

-Walks up to her and pokes her right in the middle of the breastplate- But what was done about it?

-Takes out her sword and shield and throws it to the ground- The comment was dropped like a bass beat, or much like my weapons here, and the whole run was now in jeopardy because egos got in the way.

If the DPS had been asked, hell... even in a sarcastic way, to just add in a please or to reword their request, I'm sure things would have been straightened out.

But the fact that their request was flat out ignored and that egos got in the way...

It's obvious where the blame should mostly go.