If that's all you got out of that I do not know what to tell you. The entirety of that post was to get you to understand that no matter who instigated it you BOTH, B O T H, screwed up. And for what? Pride? No one is perfect and never will be, but two wrongs don't make a right. Sure you acknowledge you could have done better thus admitting you did wrong. I AM NOT trying to guilt trip you nor am I trying to make you out to be a sadistic monster whose only goal in life is to log onto a GAME and make others' lives miserable. I am trying to get you to understand what you did wrong so that in the future if it an occurrence like this happened again you could think back and go "Hmm, I'll do it this way so I don't have to deal with the headache of arguing". It is not about WHO is wrong, you both were. It's about WHAT went wrong and what future steps can be taken to prevent things like it from happening again. You think I enjoy doing this? I'd rather not have to but if by the end of it all you walk away with some understanding of how to defuse similar situations without having to resort to quiting tanking then so be it. I'm not going to lie and say that I haven't been harsh. That's my nature. If it gets the point across I'll be rougher than granite.
But never mistake my harshness for apathy or worse, hatred. I hate no one. I do hate it when people can't use sense. Admittedly there are times when you just won't get people to be peaceful, timid, or inclined to work with you no matter the disagreement. That's why you have the option to leave the instance or vote kick the person/s. And I do not assume, I take notice of what people act like and base my dealings with them on that. You don't strike me as a "bad" person but you do need to learn to simmer down. Some people are high strung and they are not always going to be pleasant when they word things. It doesn't mean they have a grudge against you. Generally they are less inclined to want to start an argument with you. Ultimately this is a GAME, but as you have interactions with living, breathing human beings just as with real life everyday stuff so as on here you won't get along with every Tom, Dick, and Harry you happen along in DF or otherwise. It's a crap shoot and when emotions are running high cooler heads prevail. It's hard for two or more people to come to an agreement when they're pissed at each other, no?
When it's all said and done it's your choice whether to keep tanking or not or for that matter doing anything in DF. But no matter what you play on here you won't escape stupidity. Either someone will come along with the intention to act like an idiot or something, somewhere will cause another fiasco. Someone has to be the peacemaker and the sooner it happens the better in those ordeals.