You pull you tank question.

[RatCopter]

It is a question of common courtesy. If the tank is moving at a reasonable pace, then there is no reason for you to move ahead of him to pull. To do so is bad manners. If he is moving slow, use your words and ask him to speed up.
On the other side of that, tanks should understand that, sooner or later, you're gonna run into these kinds of assholes for whom common courtesy is an utterly foreign concept, and it's not your job to "punish" them. That's pure ego talking. Just roll your eyes and let it go.
You trying to get them banned for over-reacting to your bad manners is equally as egotistical, especially if you're the kind of person who hits sprint every pull to try and bait the tank into reacting this way.

At the end of the day, you can't control what other people do. If you don't like it, stick to trusts or tank yourself.

[Malthir]

It is a question of common courtesy. If the tank is moving at a reasonable pace, then there is no reason for you to move ahead of him to pull. To do so is bad manners. If he is moving slow, use your words and ask him to speed up.
On the other side of that, tanks should understand that, sooner or later, you're gonna run into these kinds of assholes for whom common courtesy is an utterly foreign concept, and it's not your job to "punish" them. That's pure ego talking. Just roll your eyes and let it go.
You trying to get them banned for over-reacting to your bad manners is equally as egotistical, especially if you're the kind of person who hits sprint every pull to try and bait the tank into reacting this way.

At the end of the day, you can't control what other people do. If you don't like it, stick to trusts or tank yourself.

As I said before in the post, It's understandable if it's maybe at the start of the pull, or if you've spoke before. But alot of what I've seen whenever I don't w2w (when healer is struggling) is mid way through a fight with a pack DPS will grab the next pack to add it to the fight, that's where alot of the problems come in, they haven't asked anyone anything, they don't have any idea what the tank and healer CD's are looking like. In that situation, you pull you tank until both the healer and I are ready to take that off you, your health bar is now a shield bar for the tank. Melee DPS has always been the most selfish and ego driven role in MMO's, I think in FF14 the issue is primarily the melee DPS don't really have a complex rotation or play style either so to make themselves feel important they have to be about doing everything super fast big pulls etc, they don't ask anyone else in the group, they don't comm at all most of the time.