Is there too much soy in this game's community

[Kolaina]

I pity the son or daughter who is taught that "a spine" or "thicker skin" is the answer to verbal abuse. "Just ignore it, it will go away" is very poor advice.

If one truly believes in that nonsense about "thicker skin", a negative reaction to criticism should be brushed off as well. Yet, a negative reaction to what one might consider a valid point appears to wound the critic.

While it is true that "not every criticism is a personal attack", not every reaction to criticism is unwarranted. In the same manner one advises others to "grow a spine", perhaps they should be taking that advice to heart. Except that it is poor advice to begin with.

Not everything is verbal abuse. That’s a key part of this. Criticism is valid and can be used to grow. Just because it hurts your feelings or makes you uncomfortable doesn’t equate it to abuse.

People don’t like being made feel negative. But it’s how we handle it and what we do with it. Treat all criticism as abuse and let it consume you, then what you were criticized on will always be there. Instead learn from it. Grow from it. As per my earlier example; stop standing in the bad in duties and the team progresses easier. Or keep standing in the bad and blame the healer for your own shortcomings you aren’t mentally or emotionally equipped to deal with