Sure, there's no definite ways to please everyone. But they are still trying to make the game customizable as possible.
Again, sitting isn't an aspect of character customization.

How you sit/idle/ect IS a way to customize your character believe it or not.
Having an emotional investment into every single possible aspect of your character doesn't make it a customizable feature, it just makes you emotional, even unreasonable the stronger you feel about it, and insufferable to everyone else listening to it.

Some people prefer
Having a preference doesn't entitle you to have it. Like I said, this isn't even about the do's and don'ts, but the can'ts. A lot of people prefer to have something different in various aspects of life, but people learn to to appreciate the things they DO have. That's called being an adult.

You think in black and white and I will politely, but firmly start asking you to at least think in CMYK when you know doggone well they didn't answer anything at all lmao.
You literally asked them a question that had 2 choices - feminine and masculine. If it's not one, it's the other. You're not as smart and nuanced as you think you are.