The idea that childreen needs to be pampered is false. Here is why:

1) 200 years ago we married at 14, have kids by 16 and be dead by 45. We have not evolved since that point
2) at 14 you can take a 300K loan in the USA, you can begin to work at 14
3) we send kids to prison starting at 12
4) kids [me included] played the entire god o war series, not any worse for it
5) safe spaces- have been proven detrimental

As someone else mentioned, the problem is parents