DPS who pull mobs

[Zanarkand-Ronso]

Question would you also let the healer die thus wiping the group if they were the ones that pulled?

If they ran ahead of me and pulled everything else while Im trying to get aggro on a mob before them? Yes.
If they pull the boss even when I typed "brb", or "wait a sec please" Then yes.

Your job is not limited to simply pulling mobs but establishing and maintaining aggro. Allowing the DPS to die out of some petty "revenge" because they ran ahead isn't doing your job. It's the equivalent of a healer refusing to heal because they got angry at someone.

And in such a scenario, you're the one I'm initiating the Vote Kick on because you're causing an actual issue. Some rando DPS or healer pulling ahead didn't impact anything except to bruise your ego slightly. You electing to let said DPS die puts more work on me as the potential healer and/or simply wastes time since now we have a DPS with weakness. You're in the wrong no matter what justification you want to spin.

I know what my job is as a tank, which is why I personally have an issue with DPS trying to tank for me. There is no Ego, nothing is being spun, Im the Tank, let me do my job and tank. Its that simple. What is the point of me being a tank if a dps is gonna do it for me? Its not revenge either, they decide they want to be tank, ill let them be tank; similar to when a 2nd tank sees that Im trying to be Main tank, but then they completely steal aggro off of me and take my job. Call it petty, yes, and Ill 100% admit Im aware Im being petty. I wont hide it.
And Its just as petty to say Im being to slow, and call me a bad tank or a Griefer for not moving at the speed and level that the DPS wants me to.

Do you know refusing to do your job and letting people die for it is reportable since it's griefing?

Someone running ahead isn't preventing you from doing your actual job, that is grabbing aggro, or doesn't mean that they want to tank, it just means that they're faster than you. You're a bad tank and a bad team player with that attitude, no two ways around it.

I was doing my job. But then somebody else decides they are a better tank and dont have time for me to tank, and do it themselves.
Im not gonna fight somebody who wants it that much more then me that they will take my job. Just wait a second or 2 for me to grab the enemies, and then Ill get the other enemies and do the Wall-to-wall Im expected to do. If im not fast enough, then by all means, take over.
If im just gonna be called a bad tank for not being as fast as they want me to be. Cool, Ill just stick to healing

Your job is to maintain threat, that is quite literally your minimum. If a dps has it, you are not doing your minimum. I don't care if he pulled something else before you did SOMEHOW to even begin with, because intentionally choosing to not keep threat and wasting everyone's time, not just that one dps, is quite literally griefing.

Would you be fine with the healer no longer healing you if you stood in one aoe?

Would you be fine with a dps just auto attacking because you caused him to miss a positional?

Why is it okay for you to not do what you came to do, but not okay for others?

Like I said a few times..I know what my job is as a Tank. If a dps decides to run ahead and do it themselves. Thats on them, Ill let them do it. Call it petty, because it is. I wont lie about it. Im trying to tank, let me tank. Dont take my job and then call me a bad tank for not letting me tank.

Same goes for a healer, if they wanna run ahead and try to take my job, more power to them.
Just wait a second for me to get going. Just because Im max level, doesnt mean I have the same skill ceiling or are as fast as others.