I think you'd have trouble justifying the 3 strike system even if they were handed out in a completely consistent way by a completely fair and uniform arbiter, but this couldn't be the case realistically, and the discussion of the week has basically highlighted that.

Ultimately the current system only serves to have a chilling effect on in-game socalization. Never say anything to anybody, you never know who is listening and how they might take it, even for a conversation they're not a part of. Just use discord.