"Elitism" vs "Casualism"

[LaughingBanana]

Unless that DPS pulling more mobs leads to you dying because you can't handle that many, no, no it absolutely isn't. If a DPS or the healer pulls more mobs and you survive it just fine that means that you are failing your job as a tank because you should have pulled those mobs before the DPs had an opportunity to do so.

You are not being inconsiderate to others playing in the group if you do this. Tanks and Healers set the pace of the content/dungeon runs, this is why people often advise whenever possible for tank and healer to communicate, like "Are you okay with big pulls?" before setting off, especially if one of them are new / rusty / still trying to acclimate themselves to high-level content.

Will it kill any player to let the group handle 6 aggros instead of just 9, for example? Are people really that impatient that they need to dictate the pace of three other people simply because they want to? Maybe the tank/player/healer is still trying to find a pace that they can comfortably run with?

Gosh, why does the first thing that pops in your mind in a situation like this is "Geez these guys SUCK and let ME do MY stuff" instead of "Okay, let's just go with the pace of the group". Is it really that hard to be considerate to other people? Is it really THAT important to cut that extra 2 or 3 minutes because the tank pulls 6 instead of 9 or 12?

I honestly just don't get it.

Tank/healer anxiety is nothing more than a myth. It's simply people being 'scared' of absolutely nothing at all. What the reality of the situation is, is that they're afraid that unlike on DPS, on tank/healer someone will actually SEE their screw up and call them out on it. It isn't that they're afraid of tanking or healing, it's that they're afraid of being people knowing they screwed up.

And that is called anxiety, afraid of committing mistakes and others chiding you for it. That's....... what anxiety is....