Quote Originally Posted by Goji1639 View Post
I'm just explaining this phenomenon to you. Criticizing someone like that in front of the group in a team situation is rude. It just is. That's why people will sometimes react that way to what you're doing.
As so, so,so many people have explained to you already - unsolicited advice is not objectively rude.

You see it that way.

These are different.

I see someone not caring to learn the inner workings of their job as rude (since it places undue burden on the players they're grouped with) but I also understand that this isn't an entirely objective stance and that these people don't see what they're doing as rude. This is likely because they're unaware there is more to learn since the only feedback loop for 99.9% of the game is a purely positive one; 'we cleared, must be going well.' SE only doubles down on this by making more and more restrictive ToS so players are discouraged from filling the gap they've left.

You're trying to act as if the subjective status of politeness is something objective and using that to assign (or at the very least imply) a moral judgment against those with whom you disagree. It's convenient thought manipulation, too. If we're rude and defending rudeness we must not be worth actually listening to, easier to repeat like a broken record than engage.

People choose how to react to stimuli. It is my choice when I see a SMN with titan ego out and no dots in level cap content to choose my own adventure. I could be rude ("stupid smn use the right pet's where are your dots uninstall if you can't play right") or helpful ("hey, I see we're having some difficulty. It'd help if [SMN] used garuda-egi on trash and ifrit on bosses, here's some smn resources too. I know it's a complicated job [link to balance/ahkmorning]") or be silent and kick them. Yes, I initially exclude leaving from this or carrying because I respect my time.

Just like I have those options so too does any player who receives advice. They can ignore it (don't be super shocked if a kick follows but w/e), respond rudely, respond like a reasonable person or leave. They could even try to kick me in return! Though I've yet to see this ever work out.

For some reason you're defending the recipient being rude but oh so adamant that it's not okay to give a struggling player advice. I assume this stems from some sort of "casting the first stone" mental gymnastics with you entirely discounting that the poor play by the advice recipient actually is the first stone.