Quote Originally Posted by Goji1639 View Post
This is just something to keep in mind.

When you're giving advice to someone in a public setting it's not just "I'm being so nice and helpful, yay me!" What you're actually doing is singling someone out and announcing their shortcomings in front of a group of strangers. Understand what that means; why it will often be received poorly and why it's something you probably shouldn't do for frivolous reasons.
Welcome to real life, where if you participate in public group activities and you are lagging behind, people may comment and let you know as such. Furthermore, what is the point? If you go message them privately, youre still calling them out, informing them that you (and possibly other team mates) knew they werent up to snuff. Hell, if we're concerned with their feelings, the simple fact that you choose not to talk to them in party and rather afterwards can be construed as thinking theyre simple and fragile. That they couldnt handle being told something in front of others. It's patronizing!

See, if we play this game of "Well your best intentions can be wrong and hurt feelings!", the suitable option is to say absolutely nothing and let the problem persist, and even then it has issues (such as the harsh reality that a player thinks theyre doing well and tries to go into Savage content only to be rudely awakened to the fact that they are definitely not up to snuff).

Just like the last thread, best option is to address issues as you see them. Plain and simple. You only can control what you say and do, you cant control how the other person feels and acts in response. If they think your rude, or become upset, or throw it back in your face, thats on them (so long as youre not being overtly unreasonable or rude - ex: "God you suck so much. Git gud or uninstall you loser!").

Need to stop behaving like we have to tip toe around problems cause "I might hurt other peoples feelings." Just say what needs to be said and stop enabling bad gameplay and behavior. Dont be an ass about it, but be polite and direct. It benefits everyone in the end.