"Elitism" vs "Casualism"

[Goji1639]

Similarly, there is a group of people in this game who walk around with the incredibly entitled opinion that anyone they're working on anything with is responsible for picking up their slack no matter the situation. I'd imagine these are people who were always lucky enough to get grouped with others in school who didn't mind putting in extra effort. At work they're likely intolerable nuisances who can hardly do their own jobs much less help anyone else but they still act like they're equal to their peers.

Irl analogues aside you don't get to determine when advice becomes necessary. For you that's before you time out in a dungeon, cool, just don't give advice before that point then.

Other people have different thresholds of acceptable play. They're going to offer advice when they see fit.

Perhaps the best way to avoid the embarrassment of being given unsolicited advice is educating yourself on the game and the job you're on - that way you're secure in your abilities if someone does feel the need to call you out on something and knowledgable enough about the mechanics of the instance you're in/job you're on that you're able to explain why what you're doing is correct.

Insulating people from discussion on improvement only causes the divide in the playerbase to widen.

I'm aware some of you just like to nag, and will set the bar wherever you think will allow you to pester strangers as frequently as possible.

Most people, however, can recognize when a run is going fine and when a run needs something to change. When a run is going fine unsolicited advice is basically just calling someone out in front of the group; and trying to make that smell better with some polite wording isn't super likely to prevent the other person from taking it as an insult.

I'm just not sure why you all act surprised by the idea that people don't enjoy being picked at. Some of you understanding that and conducting yourselves accordingly would prevent a lot of conflict in this community.