Marriage Partner Hookup Megathread!

[Deprox]

You're avatar is not you. Its a game. It may make a difference to some but not all. Its what's inside that matters. and if you are looking for love, just like in real life, Ya just don't walk up to people and say, "hey, I am looking for love, find me here" It normally just doesn't work like that. Maybe just making friends is all that is important. If it turns to something else, it does. I am not saying hide your intentions but to point blank come out and say, I want something serious down the road in real life is not going to make people come running to you.

I know so many people pass me up because they want more way too soon or because they want love. They don't take no for an answer that I am not ready. A friendship is the foundation to everything. Many people pass me up because I say, "hey, I am just happy being friends right now." Seems loneliness is more of the problem then actually wanting to give love and be loved. Everyone wants love and to find that special person. Some have it already.

Having a common gaming interest is great. it can be a nice start to a friendship that may by chance develop into something else if both parties want it. Its a chance you're just gonna have to take. But to close off others because they aren't ready and want to get to know ya better or they are putting you in the friend zone or just leaving them out of your life because they don't fit you "profile" or thread request is sad.

I have some really good friends in game. I am not looking for a partner, so please don't think that way. I just like to read the posts at times because some of you are really just looking for people to hang out with. If so, hit me up. We can run some stuff. hang out and enjoy the game the way it was intended to be.

Good luck to you all and have a great time in FFXIV. and don't let not having your partner right now discourage you or make your game less fulfilling.

With the exception of the idealistic beginning statement because game or not avatars do matter. Game life unfortunately mimics real life and its not just 'some' its the majority. Racism, exclusion, sexism, ageism, etc. all still exist in the game and all you have to do is try to find a bond partner as a Roe or try to join certain fcs and see the chats and discords or sit in Limsa for a while to see what I'm talking about. Hell just look up a bit in the posts to see all the people who only want to 'date' certain races. (I mean it's the same as saying "It's all about the personality" when no one sees the personality at first sight let's just be real. Personality most likely seals the deal but just like a car it's the initial look of it that peaks your interest, the interior and performance is what seals the deal. That said, the rest of the above quote is spot on!

[Afyde]

It truly confuses me why so many people seem to rely solely on this thread when it comes to finding your special someone.
Instead of sitting here in this thread and hoping for your true love to show up, you could also try approaching people in the game.
A simple "Hey, I like your glam..." will do the trick to start a conversation with someone.
But yeah, just like Rasikko said, having an female character while looking for a real female isn't ideal. After all, your special someone would also like to see some eye candy

With the exception of the idealistic beginning statement because game or not avatars do matter. Game life unfortunately mimics real life and its not just 'some' its the majority. Racism, exclusion, sexism, ageism, etc. all still exist in the game and all you have to do is try to find a bond partner as a Roe or try to join certain fcs and see the chats and discords or sit in Limsa for a while to see what I'm talking about. Hell just look up a bit in the posts to see all the people who only want to 'date' certain races. (I mean it's the same as saying "It's all about the personality" when no one sees the personality at first sight let's just be real. Personality most likely seals the deal but just like a car it's the initial look of it that peaks your interest, the interior and performance is what seals the deal. That said, the rest of the above quote is spot on!

Trust me. I get it. I have a FC. Not many people are active in it. brynhildr is weird. people don't join FCs they make MINI Fcs with their little cliques. I wanted a FC for all, And I mean the beginners, the mid core, the casual and a static. A place I can have a few fun activities for everyone to enjoy sometimes. A place where they can actually see some things we just take for granted and not stop and check out like going through dungeons unsynced to see the actual dungeon we run through at the speed of light. to have meet and greets, to have contests and surprises. It's not going to happen in Brynhildr most likely but I have great friends, wonderful neighbors and we run stuff together. I see the lala FCs and the Miqo'te FCs all over as well. that are only wanted their own races in it. Maybe for RP I can see something like that to stick to clans but on a regular basis, I am not so sure why it happens.

I see all these posts with their ideal partner based off looks. Yeah the profile has more information in it but its so funny yet sad that its usually something general stated vs specific races they list.

I see LOTS of ageism. I am not young. People find out I am female and about how old I am and they "joke" and call me a MILF. They don't even know if I ERP or not. They don't know what kind of game player I am. They don't even know me. But I guess some people think the way they think because of their environment.

I have been playing for many years. Most people I meet in game and then we kind of migrate to Discord and remain friends there even if one of us moves to another world or data center. Some of my best friends at one point were Roe. The would play pranks on people in Limsa and get people to laugh. And what they did only works with the bigger races. They are/were the coolest people. I am a lala. At least at the moment. I have been for months. I doubt I will change any time soon. I'm loving this lil bad azz chick taking out the "improbable." with her lil wobble of a walk and high pitch voice looking cute and innocent with a touch of flair to her.

If I go back to Vierra its because She has an appeal and yet her freckles makes her not that sexy look that everyone wants at the playboy mansion. I have my fun with changing races. Sometimes in the story line they say something like "long time no see, something's different about you" and I am thinking umm yeah. I changed my hair color yeah yeah..that's it... you shouldn't even recognize me since I changed races unless you can see my aether. haha"

And the Roe, they are large and in charge in my book. This Miqo'te is sleek and graceful of a cat that I admire. The intellectual Elvens stand tall. Just to name a few. I see all the races as something special. I don't have a preference on who hangs out with me. I don't have a preference on the shade of skin people choose for such races. Some do. As for the game, The warrior of light is not race specific. it is given to randoms to protect and save those who are weaker than him or herself. Its a gift and a curse.

People choose their looks for a reason. male, female, race, to fit a part. well, some do. depends on if you are doing it for the story line or for other reasons.

And yes, I have had m fair share of creepiness and being ditched by people I considered my friends. My umm.."thing" is, how people treat others and how they treat me if they will be a long standing friend. I am pretty laid back, funny and I have a thick skin but some things, I just won't tolerate.

I am one of those few you speak of. I am female. They aren't as rare as you think. There aren't as many as men, True. And there will be less and less if people don't start treating people decently. The ones who stick around like me, we just learned to survive and stay hidden. Play in the same safe crowds so the game is played how it was meant to be. it is sad some people are just straight up creepy. stalking others, lying, ghosting, making new discords and characters just to talk to others.

People have no clue who they are talking to, who they are segregating against when they say they only want a specific race. There are some wonderful people out there of all races, genders and skin tones. Some save your toons life everyday in game. But they don't seem to mind them doing that.

I know people who are bullied every day IRL at work and in school and just in life, who come here to be a hero and make real friends.

I know guys who play bad azz females who raid do static and aren't elitists. Who help anyone in need. (freaking lost my ending to this thread so I am winging it. thanks crome.)

You never know who is going to come across your path. Yoshi P made this game to everyone to enjoy who wants to enjoy it. It was not made to be a chore or a place to segregate. it was a place for fantasy and adventure, working as a team and enjoying the creativity of the story, graphics and each other.

You never know who you are missing out on as a friend or even more if you close off others because they decided to be a certain race or has to be a certain gender. in game or IRL.

I have to get back to work. it's not exactly what i said but well I am sure when the time comes, I will be saying more. Hopefully this opens up people's minds and hearts a little and remember what people are about. what FFXIV is about and maybe how to treat everyone a little better. We all have room for improvement.

[WarzonePrez]

You're avatar is not you. Its a game. It may make a difference to some but not all. Its what's inside that matters. and if you are looking for love, just like in real life, Ya just don't walk up to people and say, "hey, I am looking for love, find me here" It normally just doesn't work like that. Maybe just making friends is all that is important. If it turns to something else, it does. I am not saying hide your intentions but to point blank come out and say, I want something serious down the road in real life is not going to make people come running to you.

I know so many people pass me up because they want more way too soon or because they want love. They don't take no for an answer that I am not ready. A friendship is the foundation to everything. Many people pass me up because I say, "hey, I am just happy being friends right now." Seems loneliness is more of the problem then actually wanting to give love and be loved. Everyone wants love and to find that special person. Some have it already.

Having a common gaming interest is great. it can be a nice start to a friendship that may by chance develop into something else if both parties want it. Its a chance you're just gonna have to take. But to close off others because they aren't ready and want to get to know ya better or they are putting you in the friend zone or just leaving them out of your life because they don't fit you "profile" or thread request is sad.

I have some really good friends in game. I am not looking for a partner, so please don't think that way. I just like to read the posts at times because some of you are really just looking for people to hang out with. If so, hit me up. We can run some stuff. hang out and enjoy the game the way it was intended to be.

Good luck to you all and have a great time in FFXIV. and don't let not having your partner right now discourage you or make your game less fulfilling.

Some people make mistakes. Some people jump into things way too quickly. I'd like to think I learn from my mistakes.

I've met people that want to take it so slow that none of the goals are in sight. I've also met people that went from 0 to 60 within a day or two, which brought forth it's own brand of toxicity. Maybe I'm not asking for much....or maybe I'm asking too much. I don't know.

But in the end, I guess, I'm not playing this game to find someone, I play it because downing the content is fun. That doesn't mean what I said in my listing isn't true, it just meansI'm still here, and still playing, regardless of the outcome.

And Mori, I see you are still on Brynhildr. IDC if you're looking for a partner or not, Snowstorme could use a friend right now. Let me know if you ever want to run anything.