What do you do with a Blacklist full?

[CazzT]

Okay that’s good I’m glad that helped you, can you see where I’m coming from though where it might not be helpful incases if actually mental illness?

Full disclosure I actually have all of those things I listed earlier I see a therapist and I’m on an anti depressant, while my blacklist isn’t 100% full it is getting there, I’ve gotten depression episodes of depression over rude/unkind/harsh things said to me in the game and my therapist told me that my best solution is to blacklist the person and move on and not deal with them anymore.

For me someone simply telling me that I have a problem or that I’m over sensitive doesn’t actually help me, I’m aware I have a problem, I’m aware I’m over sensitive, I’m aware I have trouble relating to people a lot of times, simply reminding me of those things just makes me feel bad and powerless it doesn’t help.

We're not therapists. If someone knows they need one, I encourage them to seek one out. But online, you're going to be treated equally, as everyone should be. Which means you're going to be held to the same standard as everyone else. That standard is generally "if everyone around you is the problem, the problem is most likely not everyone around you".

Your own situation is actually a great example of this. Difference is, you know the problem lies with you. And that is not said in a negative way. Knowing ones own flaws is the best way to deal with them. We all have flaws, but when we use those as an excuse, especially then, it doesn't help the person. I'm not discouraging anyone to not use blacklist, I'm suggesting a better approach is, instead of using that, just move past the comments. They're a momentary thing anyway. If they're directed specifically at you, that's another matter. But just general conversation in public chat, blacklist is A solution, but I believe it's not the best one. This thread being a perfect example of why it's not the best, because it's limited. ( i feel like i started rambling, but i hope i made sense anyway )

[Valkyrie_Lenneth]

We're not therapists. If someone knows they need one, I encourage them to seek one out. But online, you're going to be treated equally, as everyone should be. Which means you're going to be held to the same standard as everyone else. That standard is generally "if everyone around you is the problem, the problem is most likely not everyone around you".

Your own situation is actually a great example of this. Difference is, you know the problem lies with you. And that is not said in a negative way. Knowing ones own flaws is the best way to deal with them. We all have flaws, but when we use those as an excuse, especially then, it doesn't help the person. I'm not discouraging anyone to not use blacklist, I'm suggesting a better approach is, instead of using that, just move past the comments. They're a momentary thing anyway. If they're directed specifically at you, that's another matter. But just general conversation in public chat, blacklist is A solution, but I believe it's not the best one. This thread being a perfect example of why it's not the best, because it's limited. ( i feel like i started rambling, but i hope i made sense anyway )

It's kinda like getting a restraining order against everyone who ever went the smallest bit out of line around you.