What do you do with a Blacklist full?

[Lunavi]

I shame the Futa rp'ers in Shout chat to get them to blacklist me of course.

If you ever see public ERP that is so describing that you can tell what they have under their smallclothes, report it instead and do the entirety of Balmung a favor, no one likes public ERPers, not even other ERPers.

[LalaRu]

If you fill 200 names in your blacklist so fast, maybe the problem isn't the blacklist.

[Gula]

If you fill 200 names in your blacklist so fast, maybe the problem isn't the blacklist.

I don't have 200 people on my blacklist. Was my OP not clear on that? Or maybe I worded things that alluded that I did, to which I do not. And for that, I apologize.

I came up with this theory as I watched the chat while waiting for FATES as well as NN. I am not speaking from a subjective POV either, people were posting ToS breaking comments. What people find offensive is subjective, yes. But I'm not referring to snark that can be taken either way. I am talking about actually messed up things that while I would like to parrot, I'd prefer to avoid a ban.

And thus, I sought answers in game. I got none. What I'm seeing is some chain reaction from comment to comment that have given me some crazed mentality to others and my words taken the wrong way.

[Edit] Inb4 that's proof of me being too sensitive. Look up yonder for the whole discussion on mental illness.

[CazzT]

I don't have 200 people on my blacklist. Was my OP not clear on that? Or maybe I worded things that alluded that I did, to which I do not. And for that, I apologize.

I came up with this theory as I watched the chat while waiting for FATES as well as NN. I am not speaking from a subjective POV either, people were posting ToS breaking comments. What people find offensive is subjective, yes. But I'm not referring to snark that can be taken either way. I am talking about actually messed up things that while I would like to parrot, I'd prefer to avoid a ban.

And thus, I sought answers in game. I got none. What I'm seeing is some chain reaction from comment to comment that have given me some crazed mentality to others and my words taken the wrong way.

I usually leave NN at first opportunity. I know on Siren, it's basically a clique of mentors who have a gaggle of sycophants. Not much help happens in the NN on Siren. I've heard much the same about most other worlds' NN.

As for thinking you have a crazed mentality, I personally would not say that. I think your approach isn't the best one, but I don't think you're crazy or unbalanced (at least no more so than the rest of us ). That's why my advice included considering perspective as something to change.

[LalaRu]

I don't have 200 people on my blacklist. Was my OP not clear on that? Or maybe I worded things that alluded that I did, to which I do not. And for that, I apologize.

You do not need apologize.

The one-liner I gave is meant for something much long to say: if you (not "you", let's say "someone") find 200 names in the black list too few, the problem is to be searched elsewhere than the length of a list. Do really someone had to deal with so much people he don't want be sure meet again anymore?
Then the approach is maybe not correct. Some behaviour is reportable to SE (so, no need of blacklist), some other is not, and here the black list helps him a bit.

If someone want blacklist all and everything player who /shout anything he deem inopportune but it is not rule-breaking, his best option is turn off shouts. Or, live in a community and let them pass. If they are not bad things towards him, let them pass.

If I don't like jogging, I cannot walk in a park and tell everyone who does to stop.

And if someone still want keep on his crusade against all and everything he don't like and he fills the 200 spots, he still can delete the old names to make room for the new ones.

[van_arn]

If your blacklist is full, learn to get along with other people better.

[SerLuke]

This is coming from someone like yourself who suffers from a myriad issues. I agree it would nice, but it is all extremely unrealistic and so sort of a moot point in all of this. Here is the issue we do have problems, and in the grand scheme to most who do not know or suffer from said problems personally it is simply a get over it issue. Since that is how most people without our problems handle it by getting over it. Asking the general public how we with problems should handle something is honestly insane, and expecting the general public to cater their responses to us and consider our problems which many do not understand is selfish in my opinion.

Welp, thanks for calling me selfish and insane, so much for trying to have a reasonable, level headed dialog without resorting to insults.

[Awha]

Welp, thanks for calling me selfish and insane, so much for trying to have a reasonable, level headed dialog without resorting to insults.

Sorry, this comes with my own issues I do not view calling the actions someone takes and crazy as a personal insult. For example I enjoy skateboarding, and I tend to do dangerous things, my family tells me all the time that was crazy, I do not take that as me being crazy unless they outright say I am crazy. Just how I am, and often forget others are not the same. Did not mean you were insane or selfish just the action itself is insane and selfish.

In short I only view statements that were personally made at me as an insult, and for some odd reason I do not tie an action to a person but that may have to do with my past and how shady my family is. Either way I apologize was not my intent for you to think of it as an insult, I was referring to your actions not as a person.

[SerLuke]

Sorry, this comes with my own issues I do not view calling the actions someone takes and crazy as a personal insult. For example I enjoy skateboarding, and I tend to do dangerous things, my family tells me all the time that was crazy, I do not take that as me being crazy unless they outright say I am crazy. Just how I am, and often forget others are not the same. Did not mean you were insane or selfish just the action itself is insane and selfish.

In short I only view statements that were personally made at me as an insult, and for some odd reason I do not tie an action to a person but that may have to do with my past and how shady my family is. Either way I apologize was not my intent for you to think of it as an insult, I was referring to your actions not as a person.

Apology accepted, and honestly its not so much that I want to be treated this way, I'm not in that place in life anymore and I'm thankful for it, its that I've been in that place, I know how it made me feel when people talked to me that way, I don't want others to go through it, sure I know asking people to be kind and understanding is idealistic and naive, but I its how I try to be my life and how I try to interact with others in the game in hopes my kindness shown to them might extend to others and so on and so forth.

[Awha]

Apology accepted, and honestly its not so much that I want to be treated this way, I'm not in that place in life anymore and I'm thankful for it, its that I've been in that place, I know how it made me feel when people talked to me that way, I don't want others to go through it, sure I know asking people to be kind and understanding is idealistic and naive, but I its how I try to be my life and how I try to interact with others in the game in hopes my kindness shown to them might extend to others and so on and so forth.

I get where you are coming from, but I still stand by my mindset that A) if the OP does suffer from certain issues coming to a general forum expecting help that does not boil down to get over it is insane (in the sense of shocking; outrageous). B) Expecting otherwise is extremely selfish. That is just my view on the matter, though the way I got stable with my issues differs from some, I simply came to terms with that fact that the only person I have control over is myself everyone else is outside my bubble. As such only things that I "try" to let impact my mood and state of mind are things that are in my control and I am personally able to take action to change.