Is there a place for me?

[Sasarayu]

I'm honestly not surprised this happened... the replies and 'advice' most people are responding with I mean. Evidently self disclosing we have autism isn't clear enough for some.
They say we lack empathy - and yet it's mostly those with autism who're showing empathy.

I'm leery about trying to give any advice without knowing you better, but some of what you mentioned I've been through myself - it's never fun or easy.

1st, I'm on Aether datacenter - if you were open to hopping centers I'd be down to hang out.
Just came back from hiatus a month ago myself so I have some catching up to do. I can't guarantee you'd get along with most of the people I hang out with - but we're largely a gaggle of 'neets' and abnormal people. If anyone's putting up with anyone - it's at least mutual. (yeah that's a terrible sales pitch, I don't do retail)

I wouldn't be surprised if that's not an option you'd consider, but if you're looking for others in your center, I personally look for this:

• Seek out people who will be honest or candid with you. This usually only works if you self-disclose granted (but we've both self disclosed so I'm guessing that's not an issue?).
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• If you're going to try and find people like you - consider people with ADHD too.
• The few autism groups I've seen or visited, referred to folks with ADHD as 'cousins' for a reason - more 'kissing cousins' I suppose.
• People who self describe as 'neets' can be ok to hang out with. No guarantee because people can be a neet for many reasons - but I seem to mesh well with the ones I know.

There's also a variety of autistic gaming communities online - not really been in any myself, but I doubt there won't be at least a couple people in there that play FFXIV.

We could also add each other on discord if you like.

Too bad we aren't in the same part of the world, meaning awful ping etc. I'm at least glad to find one autistic person who doesn't play advocate for the "neurotypical" majority but understand where my anger comes from and why people turn into monsters from bad experiences with the community.

I would try to find people with ADHD too. Some people even have both, more rare though. I once had a friend in FFXIV who is also autistic. Before he lost interest in the game we basically did all minor content smoothly, with no complaints and somewhat high performance but we couldn't find 6 others like that and his ambition level was lower than mine so we drifted apart eventually. He mostly enjoyed being house clown for the more normal majority in the end and didn't like me swinging at them so violently.

[Phenidate]

Too bad we aren't in the same part of the world, meaning awful ping etc. I'm at least glad to find one autistic person who doesn't play advocate for the "neurotypical" majority but understand where my anger comes from and why people turn into monsters from bad experiences with the community.

I would try to find people with ADHD too. Some people even have both, more rare though. I once had a friend in FFXIV who is also autistic. Before he lost interest in the game we basically did all minor content smoothly, with no complaints and somewhat high performance but we couldn't find 6 others like that and his ambition level was lower than mine so we drifted apart eventually. He mostly enjoyed being house clown for the more normal majority in the end and didn't like me swinging at them so violently.

As far as the location barrier - I only realized Odin was an EU server after someone mentioned it.
Understandable if you don't want put up with the ping issues - but if you don't have any luck on your side of the globe; there are some options we might try to help with ping issues - not always perfect solutions but I'd like to help.
Right now I'm rich in free time, so feel free to hit me up if you like. My sleep schedule is off to, so I'm likely to be awake when you are anyways.

I'm Autumn#8679 on discord, throw me an invite if you'd like to chat.

On the ADHD thing - I wonder if it's more a difference between ICD and DSM diagnosis guidelines. Here at least, things have changed quite a bit in the past few decades as far as medical science and diagnosis guidelines go at least. I'm unsure if the relation between ADHD to autism (and several other possible disorders) is the same when reversed - it wouldn't surprise me to hear most people with autism don't have ADHD.
You can say you know at least one more person with both though, something I learned not long ago myself honestly.