Is there a place for me?

**GoingInside** · 06-06-2019 04:08 AM

"Are there no prisons? Are there no workhouses?"

**NessaWyvern** · 06-06-2019 04:51 AM

Long rants aren't usually a turn off for people, unless the rants are about certain people, or sensitive subjects. I used to do long rants about the atma fate farming step, and ranting about people stealing my pizza in the dorm fridge for laughs, with people asking me to rant more because they found it funny, you just gotta do it right

Edit: that comment above me is coming off as pretty abrasive, I'm not sure there's many people out there that would tolerate that way of talking, let alone enjoy it. I wish you luck OP, I really do, as it'll be like finding a needle in a haystack.

**Akonyl** · 06-06-2019 05:02 AM

Originally Posted by tinythinker

Can't believe no one has made a Balmung joke yet

Bit of a funny thing to say when you're the first post, 8 minutes later. :P

Anyway, to respond to the thread, there might be a place for you, but it'll probably be hard to find. It probably isn't enough to just find a group of "misfit freaks", because the more eccentric the people are, the more varied their behaviors are, basically by definition. So even if you do find a bunch of eccentric people, you might hate them and they might hate you anyway, because you might have different brands of eccentricity that rub each other the wrong way. Like, I'm an anime nerd, but if I meet a train nerd who talks about nothing but trains 24/7 I'm prob not gonna keep hanging out with him just because we're both nerds, since I just don't wanna hear about trains all day. If you're a (self-proclaimed) ranter, you gotta find people who would want to listen to the things you're ranting about.

You might not want the approval of the "normal" people in this thread, but if you want to find a group of misfits willing to accept you, you'd probably have to advertise your brand of misfitness some way or another, whether that's talking about it here or putting up a PF with a strange message looking for a static, to make sure the people who you want to see you actually see you. Otherwise, the only thing people really know about you is that your last group disliked you enough to boot you, which isn't a great look for finding a group to join. So knowing a bit more about what you're like in raiding might help in determining whether or not you're likely to find other people.

**Sasarayu** · 06-06-2019 05:34 AM

Originally Posted by Akonyl

Bit of a funny thing to say when you're the first post, 8 minutes later. :P

Anyway, to respond to the thread, there might be a place for you, but it'll probably be hard to find. It probably isn't enough to just find a group of "misfit freaks", because the more eccentric the people are, the more varied their behaviors are, basically by definition. So even if you do find a bunch of eccentric people, you might hate them and they might hate you anyway, because you might have different brands of eccentricity that rub each other the wrong way. Like, I'm an anime nerd, but if I meet a train nerd who talks about nothing but trains 24/7 I'm prob not gonna keep hanging out with him just because we're both nerds, since I just don't wanna hear about trains all day. If you're a (self-proclaimed) ranter, you gotta find people who would want to listen to the things you're ranting about.

You might not want the approval of the "normal" people in this thread, but if you want to find a group of misfits willing to accept you, you'd probably have to advertise your brand of misfitness some way or another, whether that's talking about it here or putting up a PF with a strange message looking for a static, to make sure the people who you want to see you actually see you. Otherwise, the only thing people really know about you is that your last group disliked you enough to boot you, which isn't a great look for finding a group to join. So knowing a bit more about what you're like in raiding might help in determining whether or not you're likely to find other people.

I could write 200 pages about myself but that would be deemed self indulgent nonsense and few would read it so I started this thread so people can see for themselves what I'm like.

Taking the thread literally :

There are likely people out there who will "accept" you as long as you are competent at the game. The problem is finding them. Is this thread asking people to come forward or asking for methods to find those people?

Both since I'm approaching FFXIV from many different angles and playing it for many reasons. There is no one solution.

"A complete socially retarded freak" describes 75% of the MMO community by normal standards. Describing yourself that way in the context of this game indicates that your behavior is extreme. Most of us have no idea what that would look like. Without concrete examples, we have no idea how extreme.

This sums it up nicely. I'm apparently too extreme for people with various strange behaviours. It's difficult to describe exactly how but I suppose it might come down to limited theory of mind or whatever that I simply don't understand myself just HOW extreme I am when others seem to doubt if I'm even real.

**Krotoan** · 06-06-2019 05:36 AM

Originally Posted by Sasarayu

Both since I'm approaching FFXIV from many different angles and playing it for many reasons. There is no one solution.

In this case I would most definitely suggest also posting in the server subforums if you have not already. That's all I have though. Best of luck.

**SenorPatty** · 06-06-2019 05:09 AM

So just to clarify as a summary of some posts of the first page:

-OP can't fit anywhere because he's a misfit

-Given up on fiding groups and/or friends to do pve content

-But still would like to try and be part of a group of misfits to do pve content?

All I can say is do you actually need point #3? Because everyone has a sort of middle meeting ground when it comes to having a "group" so even that might not be enough, given what I've read so far. Better to just try and fimd one person and work at the relationship with that person then finding a group.

Just my take as someone who has to work at it everyday to hold on to the friendships I have now rather than letting them go on a whim.

**Sanctify** · 06-06-2019 05:12 AM

Just do like a lot of us and raid/play w.o talking in voips. Personally, I wouldn't care how weird/shitty of a person someone is if they play and know their job if they just keep their head down and never bring it to light.

If keeping quite isnt an option Idk how much luck you'll have lol.

**Krotoan** · 06-06-2019 05:20 AM

Taking the thread literally :

There are likely people out there who will "accept" you as long as you are competent at the game. The problem is finding them. Is this thread asking people to come forward or asking for methods to find those people?