Sexual harassment

[Rogatum]

Maybe to warn other people so that nobody else will get hurt by this person anymore? If he is so innocent why not prove it? The online magazine talked to him too and yet he did not feel the need to prove his innocence eventhough he said that he could. Why? If I am truly innocent and somehow over a dozen of other people tell lies about me, I would do my best to prove them as guilty. Yet somehow he posted a screenshot later that blacked out the sentences that the other woman posted and again later he posted "evidence" on some kind of blog (which kinda makes it look like he wrote that post himself) that only showed something while the person was still under his influence. (I mean I am not saying that every victim always behaved like an angel) Also he went against their wishes to remain hidden and called some of them with their names. Did some victims behave badly too? Yes probably, but for someone that sees himself as innocent he surely does not behave that way. Also why should people even believe his screenshots, if they can be changed that much too? Who is to say that any of his sources are not just written by him? Isnt it just strange that he took down his social media, gave the magazine away and said that he would step down, dont post any evidence when it was still fresh...and days later suddenly there is "evidence" that are either blacked out screenshots or computer written messages and he took the magazine back and deleted a few tweets about this..

I am not going to post about your other points because I gave enough examples why its better that victims in such cases have professional help.

I do agree they should seek professional help, never denied that. My issue with a lot of these cases the so called evidence does leave a lot of unanswered questions yet people look at you like you are crazy if you reserve making passing judgment until more information is shown. No where did I state that they should believe the accused over the accuser, I think both sides should be taken with a grain of salt something official comes from it. Just as you do not feel that the public is equipped to offer treatment (which I do agree with) I do not think the public is equipped to understand the situation and pass judgement based solely off accusations.

In regard to this case, do I think his behavior strange? Yes I do, but to a degree also understandable since I am not sure if the person in question sought legal counsel and what advice said counsel gave him. At the moment all we have is conjecture, I just personally think it is strange to come up with a conclusion based off conjecture.

Either way beyond that it does seem unfair to refer to people as scum because they place some blame of the victim, or when your default reaction is how do we know which side is telling the truth. It is as if a line has been drawn and if do not pick a the "right" side from the start you in a rough spot. It should not be a matter of burning the bridge as you cross it, sure minds can be changed, but often the damage is already done. One thing that we can objectively see though are the actions of victim, so depending on what they did yes I would place some blame on them depending on what was done or not done. That is the person I am, I believe we are responsible for our own actions. As others have mentioned I also do stand by what we learn from our mistakes is often the only take away one gets from such ordeals. As an outside party with no professional experience only thing I can do for the victim is treat them the way I feel I would like to be treated if I found myself in that situation.

Which often gets turned into a huge mess because in that situation my actions are held to a certain standard, yet the same standard is not held for those that are accused. That is the reason why I brought up the professional help when it comes to treatment, yet that seems to put on the back burner when it comes to the accusations themselves. At that point it seems everyone becomes an expert. Hope what I am trying to say makes sense.