Dear Tanks

[winsock]

Some of us tanks will ask if big pulls are ok. Others just assume and make asses of them self's and healers.
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If they complain I always bring up the fact that they could not handle big pulls and I rather finish the run then get frustrated.

Asking a healer if big pulls are okay just pins the responsibility of making those assumptions on the healer (which sucks because the tank is in a much better position to be determining the pull size). Ex: healer answers "yes" assuming the tank knows how to pull, tank only thinks they know how to pull big, tank blames healer for a wipe the tank caused.

Tanks should just assume and go. Assume your WHM is capable of roughly cure 2 spam, make a pull based on that, then adjust accordingly. Most of the time, this assumption won't impact your runtime. Most healers can spam a button, and cure II spam is usually enough for the dungeon's initial wall-to-wall pull.