So...have do you make friends?

[Chiramu]

So many people responding but not many people realise how hard it is for people with social anxiety .

[DDkiki]

So many people responding but not many people realise how hard it is for people with social anxiety .

Someone who saw this thread decided to try messaging me ingame, ugh, after I wrote how is it feeling when random people contacting me.

As for good news after a little meditation too boost self-confidence joined some random fc... but already feel I don't belong there.

[Chiramu]

Someone who saw this thread decided to try messaging me ingame, ugh, after I wrote how is it feeling when random people contacting me.

As for good news after a little meditation too boost self-confidence joined some random fc... but already feel I don't belong there.

It is really hard to speak to people like that XD; they say, "hi" so I got, "hey" back, then awkward :P.

[Gemina]

Someone who saw this thread decided to try messaging me ingame, ugh, after I wrote how is it feeling when random people contacting me.

As for good news after a little meditation too boost self-confidence joined some random fc... but already feel I don't belong there.

I would actually be more surprised if someone didn't randomly contact you as a result of this thread. But if they mentioned they have seen your thread, that was the ice breaker. That is different than someone randomly contacting you just out of the blue because their dart just happened to land on your name. That person was actually reaching out, and it sounds like you shut the door on him/her. Not good. That goes against what you're trying to achieve.

As for your new FC, there can be a lot of contributing factors as to why you feel like you don't fit in. But based off of your previous statement, it is plausible that your thoughts and actions are not synced, meaning that how you feel and how you behave don't line up. I hate sounding like an internet psychologist, but it seems you have some protective barriers up.

I do apologize in advance if I am treading too deep, but the advice the other posters have been giving about being more open is very valid. However, it is also very possible that your interests and the interests of the FC don't line up. Just try not to be so quick to dismiss an opportunity. Give things a little bit of time to develop. Take into mind when I mentioned that things don't happen overnight.

[Mikki]

Someone who saw this thread decided to try messaging me ingame, ugh, after I wrote how is it feeling when random people contacting me.

As for good news after a little meditation too boost self-confidence joined some random fc... but already feel I don't belong there.

Oh dear, this is your problem!!

As was stated in another reply... that person was giving you an icebreaker by saying they had seen your thread and were reaching out to you. You can't really expect to make friends if your feeling is that you dislike random contacts; most relationships in this game start as a random contact. My best friend on this game I randomly messaged him saying I liked his name and we hit it off really well. If you want to make friends, it's better to try being receptive to people contacting you randomly. They are probably trying to be friendly and make friends so it's your chance to do the same! It might make you a bit nervous and it may be difficult to think of how to reply but just try! n__n

If you feel like you don't belong in your new FC, try talking more in /fc chat. Ask everyone how they are doing and what they're up to. Share things from your own day with them. Discuss topics related to the game. What you think of the story so far (as long as you make sure it's ok to discuss and no one currently on is going to be spoiled by it!). Talk about your favorite characters or story arks. Talk about what content you wish to see in the future. Talk about lore. Talk about goals you have for the game, like getting certain gear or leveling up other classes. Ask people if they need help.

If you still don't feel welcome even after trying your best to communicate with others and be friendly, then maybe this isn't the best fit for you and that's ok too. You can always leave that FC and find another one.

[Saziel]

So many people responding but not many people realise how hard it is for people with social anxiety .

Yep...that's me as well.

[Kakiko]

As someone who carries diagnoses of generalized and social anxiety disorders, as well as a major depressive disorder diagnosis, I empathize and understand your hesitancy to being social. However, I want to say that you can't have your cake and eat it, too. Someone reached out to you based off this thread and your response to it was to essentially be either disheartened or disturbed. I understand that you want to make connections, but the first step has to be taken somewhere and since you've made it clear that you have difficulty with that, it'll have to come from someone else.

One of my favorite quotes is "if all you ever do is all you've ever done, then all you'll ever get is all you've ever got." If you want something in your life, you have to make steps to achieve it. Even if those steps are uncomfortable.

[Avatre]

So many people responding but not many people realise how hard it is for people with social anxiety .

I have minor social anxiety, but I'm just naturally a quiet individual who observes, and will offer my input when it is relevant. Sadly, most people figure that I am just not wanting to talk...where in reality, I prefer to have meaningful conversations, and not gossip style conversations(which I find 90% of the time when I try talking to people in game =/...)