So...have do you make friends?

[DDkiki]

Decided to return again and really love changes so I probably will stick again for a while.

But I have a problem... when I transferred to Omega at SB start I broke all bridges and lost all little connections I had and found really hard to start any others...It's awkward to join any FC as I had my fair share of bad experience and my social anxiety make me hard to even ask anyone about their fcs, I can't just start talking with strangers...so I don't know, finding myself just sitting in Limsa listening other people conversations while waiting for duty.

Really want to start catching up all content, like primals and try to clear Savage but don't have anyone to do content with...

Do you have any good advice? It's depressing how I'm feeling lonely in such a game.

[TitaniaYaerem]

I've been in your shoes, hence why I moved servers. People who were my friends called me all sorts of things behind my back and then act all nice to my face. This all led to my depression and anxiety, which I had under control for the longest time, to start to resurface and lead to suicidal thoughts, severe depression, and anxiety attacks. Took me a while to even feel like talking to people again but from my experience it took time to cope, and then when I felt like I had coped a bit, I started to slowly open up and talk to people in my FC. You don't have to be super chatty at first, just simple 'hellos' will do and a little light conversations to get the ball rolling. Lets people know that you're there and you are willing to talk and from there you can come out at your own pace.

[Lurkios]

My method was always to run around pulling Miqo'te's tails via emote. Makes a decent enough conversation starter.

You do get slapped a lot though...

[DDkiki]

One of the reasons I moved was to get over things I had happened to there, that also got me into deep depression and suicidal tendency.

But right now on this server I barely know only few people, and I think I'm bothering them when asking to do stuff like roulettes as they mostly never join.

The FC I randomly joined but wasn't really into it was dead when I returned, the last person online was 45 days ago or something so I left it.

It's hard to join already formed server society, I feel like a third party who just there while most of the players already only live in their closed communities that circles around people knowing each other.

[DDkiki]

My method was always to run around pulling Miqo'te's tails via emote. Makes a decent enough conversation starter.

You do get slapped a lot though...

I have my old macro
/Poke motion
/Emote pokes <t>'s nose. Boop!

But people just ignoring it most of the time.

[Lurkios]

It's hard to join already formed server society, I feel like a third party who just there while most of the players already only live in their closed communities that circles around people knowing each other.

Sometimes you just have to claim someone or some group to make your way in.

/em grabs <t>'s tail.
/em claims <t>.
/s Mine.

Got me a good friend for a long time.

Walking into a middle of a group and saying "Hey new friends, what are we doing?" got me a raid group too.

Just gotta put yourself out there. Most folks are cool, but you're the one looking for folks - if you don't let them know you're not going to find anyone.

I have my old macro
/Poke motion
/Emote pokes <t>'s nose. Boop!

But people just ignoring it most of the time.

(Be aware that the majority of folks just standing around are afk. Be a sportsman, moving targets.)

One other thing I'll throw in, if your FC has a discord or something - get in the discord. 90% of the activity happens over voice chat, always.

[Texa]

I met most of my friends bird farming or running maps.

[stardrifter]

Best thing I can say is too just play and speak with people about the game as much as possible, we all have one thing in common and it's FF so it's a pretty good ice breaker.

On an another note, try not care so much what other people think. Don't take things so personally, silence doesn't mean they don't like you or are ignoring you.

I've joined multiple FC's over the years, some just weren't my style, I didn't mesh with the people, playtimes didn't match up, goals, many reasons. I just said thanks but no thanks and moved on. Nothing wrong with that. Now I'm part of a great group of people, talk on discord more than text chat. Just gotta keep trying and meeting people until something sticks


There's only one thing that's gonna help you with your anxiety and social awkwardness, besides meds, and that's putting yourself out there. start a pf for treasure maps or something, be assertive, ask if you can add people to your friends list. If they say no oh well big deal that's life.

Everyone has things that harder for them than it is for others, just means you have to work harder on those things and vice versa.
Meeting new people is tough, joining a group where everyone knows each other and you know no one is really tough, just like starting a job, or school, or whatever you kind of just have to do it.

This is coming from someone who yes had been diagnosed with depression and anxiety, took meds, was a social outcast growing up, scared of everything. At some point you have to be sick of feeling like that and just say **** it, like yourself and other will too, not everyone will, but the important ones will.

[DDkiki]

Sometimes you just have to claim someone or some group to make your way in.

/em grabs <t>'s tail.
/em claims <t>.
/s Mine.

Got me a good friend for a long time.

Walking into a middle of a group and saying "Hey new friends, what are we doing?" got me a raid group too.

Just gotta put yourself out there. Most folks are cool, but you're the one looking for folks - if you don't let them know you're not going to find anyone.

When people actually noticing me I actually want to dig a hole, hide there and just disappear from this world entirely so your method will be hard :<

I know that one person I remember from my old server are on omega too and actually wanted to contact them but I afraid he don't remember and I don't think he ever liked me to begin with...

[Lurkios]

When people actually noticing me I actually want to dig a hole, hide there and just disappear from this world entirely so your method will be hard :<

I know that one person I remember from my old server are on omega too and actually wanted to contact them but I afraid he don't remember and I don't think he ever liked me to begin with...

That's a whole different sort of problem my friend. Can't have your cake and eat it too - either you get people to notice you or you don't. If social interaction is that frightening to you you might want to see a therapist. Note, I'm not saying you're nuts or anything, I think it's actually a pretty common problem for folks - just that your mental state seems to be conflicting with a goal of yours, which they might be able to help you with.