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    Lurkios's Avatar
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    Quote Originally Posted by DDkiki View Post
    It's hard to join already formed server society, I feel like a third party who just there while most of the players already only live in their closed communities that circles around people knowing each other.
    Sometimes you just have to claim someone or some group to make your way in.

    /em grabs <t>'s tail.
    /em claims <t>.
    /s Mine.

    Got me a good friend for a long time.

    Walking into a middle of a group and saying "Hey new friends, what are we doing?" got me a raid group too.

    Just gotta put yourself out there. Most folks are cool, but you're the one looking for folks - if you don't let them know you're not going to find anyone.

    Quote Originally Posted by DDkiki View Post
    I have my old macro
    /Poke motion
    /Emote pokes <t>'s nose. Boop!

    But people just ignoring it most of the time.
    (Be aware that the majority of folks just standing around are afk. Be a sportsman, moving targets.)

    One other thing I'll throw in, if your FC has a discord or something - get in the discord. 90% of the activity happens over voice chat, always.
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    Last edited by Lurkios; 11-01-2017 at 11:49 AM.

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    Player DDkiki's Avatar
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    Shria Qestir
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    Quote Originally Posted by Lurkios View Post
    Sometimes you just have to claim someone or some group to make your way in.

    /em grabs <t>'s tail.
    /em claims <t>.
    /s Mine.

    Got me a good friend for a long time.

    Walking into a middle of a group and saying "Hey new friends, what are we doing?" got me a raid group too.

    Just gotta put yourself out there. Most folks are cool, but you're the one looking for folks - if you don't let them know you're not going to find anyone.
    When people actually noticing me I actually want to dig a hole, hide there and just disappear from this world entirely so your method will be hard :<

    I know that one person I remember from my old server are on omega too and actually wanted to contact them but I afraid he don't remember and I don't think he ever liked me to begin with...
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    Quote Originally Posted by DDkiki View Post
    When people actually noticing me I actually want to dig a hole, hide there and just disappear from this world entirely so your method will be hard :<

    I know that one person I remember from my old server are on omega too and actually wanted to contact them but I afraid he don't remember and I don't think he ever liked me to begin with...
    That's a whole different sort of problem my friend. Can't have your cake and eat it too - either you get people to notice you or you don't. If social interaction is that frightening to you you might want to see a therapist. Note, I'm not saying you're nuts or anything, I think it's actually a pretty common problem for folks - just that your mental state seems to be conflicting with a goal of yours, which they might be able to help you with.
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    Player DDkiki's Avatar
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    Quote Originally Posted by Lurkios View Post
    That's a whole different sort of problem my friend. Can't have your cake and eat it too - either you get people to notice you or you don't. If social interaction is that frightening to you you might want to see a therapist. Note, I'm not saying you're nuts or anything, I think it's actually a pretty common problem for folks - just that your mental state seems to be conflicting with a goal of yours, which they might be able to help you with.
    Well, being super socially active and wanting to just find the little community to be with it's different but you are right and that's me who is the problem here, well, mostly my always active self-defence state of mind, that shell that I can't destroy.
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    Riko Futatabi
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    Quote Originally Posted by DDkiki View Post
    Well, being super socially active and wanting to just find the little community to be with it's different but you are right and that's me who is the problem here, well, mostly my always active self-defence state of mind, that shell that I can't destroy.
    I'll destroy that shell for you! I love elezen! If only you were on the Primal Data center, I'd befriend you. :P
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    Kai Earendel
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    Hyperion
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    Do dungeons or other stuff with random people, when you find someone you like or had fun with, send them a friend request. Two clicks! A lot of the time it's that simple. People don't even have to be on your server for this anymore.

    Otherwise the #1 way into an FFXIV player's heart is to compliment their glamour (or their house). Nearly every non-FC/RL friend on my list got there this way.

    Duty Finder conditions people into thinking that nobody ever wants to talk, but the opposite is really true -- it's just that pretty much everyone's been conditioned in the same way. It can be scary to initiate, but somebody has to take the first step.
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    Luno Belfi
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    Quote Originally Posted by Lurkios View Post
    One other thing I'll throw in, if your FC has a discord or something - get in the discord. 90% of the activity happens over voice chat, always.
    That makes me think on tranfer to Behemoth. I'm not confident in spoken english (since it's pretty bad), since it isn't my main language. I'm on FC, added it to Facebook and Discord, but never went to voice chat.

    And on Behemot there are entire FC's with people from my country.
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