So...have do you make friends?

[Lurkios]

My method was always to run around pulling Miqo'te's tails via emote. Makes a decent enough conversation starter.

You do get slapped a lot though...

[DDkiki]

My method was always to run around pulling Miqo'te's tails via emote. Makes a decent enough conversation starter.

You do get slapped a lot though...

I have my old macro
/Poke motion
/Emote pokes <t>'s nose. Boop!

But people just ignoring it most of the time.

[Texa]

I met most of my friends bird farming or running maps.

[Chiramu]

I met most of my friends bird farming or running maps.

With social anxiety this is still hard to make friends with :/, for me anyway. I run with strangers but I still can't bring myself to start a random conversation, ask for FC info, or ask if they want to be friends. Majority of people I have ever added onto my friends list (other than my BF) are people who are nice, but I am too anxious to ever just speak to them randomly. Social anxiety is a severe bitch.

I understand where you are coming from OP, I feel the same way. When I went back to WoW it was the same too, too bad you are on EU server, I can't chat with you over there unless I want to play with more lag than I get on JP servers from Australia XD.

[stardrifter]

Best thing I can say is too just play and speak with people about the game as much as possible, we all have one thing in common and it's FF so it's a pretty good ice breaker.

On an another note, try not care so much what other people think. Don't take things so personally, silence doesn't mean they don't like you or are ignoring you.

I've joined multiple FC's over the years, some just weren't my style, I didn't mesh with the people, playtimes didn't match up, goals, many reasons. I just said thanks but no thanks and moved on. Nothing wrong with that. Now I'm part of a great group of people, talk on discord more than text chat. Just gotta keep trying and meeting people until something sticks


There's only one thing that's gonna help you with your anxiety and social awkwardness, besides meds, and that's putting yourself out there. start a pf for treasure maps or something, be assertive, ask if you can add people to your friends list. If they say no oh well big deal that's life.

Everyone has things that harder for them than it is for others, just means you have to work harder on those things and vice versa.
Meeting new people is tough, joining a group where everyone knows each other and you know no one is really tough, just like starting a job, or school, or whatever you kind of just have to do it.

This is coming from someone who yes had been diagnosed with depression and anxiety, took meds, was a social outcast growing up, scared of everything. At some point you have to be sick of feeling like that and just say **** it, like yourself and other will too, not everyone will, but the important ones will.

[Final-Fantasy]

Is it just me or is this like your warning people to keep away from you.

[Zarabeth]

I tend to befriend shy people. I simply stalk them until they give in and be my friend.

[LockeCole]

When I was younger, and stupider, I tended not to socialize or interact with many people. Even in MMO's I was very goal oriented; achievements, raid accomplishments, gear sets, etc. I didn't appreciate the small connections or friendships that I had made. Now that I am older, I have found that the smallest interaction or relationship should be appreciated. This may sound corny - but at the end of the day, it really is the truth.

Being on a server with no friends, no real personal connection can be extremely daunting. It's like you're in a crowded room, but no one can see you. You're going to have to make them notice you. You can start small, look at Party Finder, find events that you can join and socialize. Find a large, active, social Free Company that you can hide in and observe for awhile. Eventually you'll build all of these small connections and relationships and this anxiety will fade. Good Luck! :3

[tinythinker]

There is also this thread: http://forum.square-enix.com/ffxiv/t...-Megathread%21

I should probably actively seek out people for my friends list as well for this game but I seem to mostly do fine with people in PF and DF, except for those few...

Anyway, good luck finding a little group that you are comfortable with.

[Ghastly]

Linkshells

In shout chat ask for hunt linkshells, ask for friendly linkshell to join, ask for elezen only linkshell to join (these race linkshells are the best :3 shout out to my roegadyns in cactuar) and things like that.

Linkshells are such a great way of finding people and then joining their fc if they're nice enough

By the way joining big FCs is always a gamble. Try joining the small FCs that have 3-8 active people. Those will include you in everything they can.