Tips on being a mentor but not sounding bossy

[XiXiQ]

You are only looking at this from your point of view.

That's how everyone sees things. You included.

All they did was ask a question which the other person can reply in a civil manner, or simply ignore if they really want to.

It is only accusatory if you choose to see it that way. It might not be the intention of the person writing it at all so you are making a baseless assumption.

When you know you have a chance of something you say being taken the wrong way, when it's been explained to you by more than one person here why that particular approach does not often work - and your own experience has born that out - why are you still defending it?

and if that comment annoyed you, I have made my point.