Does it get any better?

[Jim_Berry]

In WoW, as a tank, if dps pulled, they tanked it until they killed it or died. Keep doing it and you'd get booted in a heartbeat.

As a tank main in FFXIV, I live by this rule. At first, I didn't, but now, YOU will tank if you pulled.

Now, if the healer starts healing you and the healer takes aggro, I will protect the healer and ask the healer not to heal you. If the healer continue to heal you, I will go Sword Oath or drop Grit and let you tank/pull. In worse case scenario, I may get booted, but my queue times isn't as long as yours, so not only did I gain some gil, items, and xp from our dungeon, I'm gaining more from the next dungeon, and dungeon after that while you're still queueing for your second dungeon.

I WILL say this, though:
If you want fast runs, PLEASE ask the tank and healer if they can do it. You ask the tank because he knows what he can and can't handle, and the heal may not be the dps type of healer.