I often find it funny how lazy people can be in pugs. Tbh Tank's and DPS are supposed to have this mutual relationship where its "Im a good dps, i challenge you to hold hate off me" and "Im a good tank, i challenge you to rip hate off me." This how the relationships were in FFXI and tbh should stand to be true here. If a DPS rips hate and dies maybe the tank didnt try hard enough to keep hate, and if the dps cant get hate then hes free to wail on the target all he wants. I find it more fun to challenge a tank to test if they really know their job because i know when im with my friends its almost impossible for me to pull hate off them.